(Closed) why he waited…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

What is an AR?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Silly boys & their toys 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wait, so he put you through all of that so he could buy an AR-15?!? Am I reading this correctly?

I would be livid if my SO was ok with arguing and seeing me depressed for months just so that he could buy a gun. If it was just a money issue, and he didn’t want to buy the ring without being more financially stable I would of course understand. But one last toy before she can say no to it. That would be a problem for me.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

omg people are so weird   and funny sometimes. Well at least he is honest with you!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I would be so angry. I would have let him buy an AR even after getting engaged, just work it into the savings budget. I get tetchy waiting lol

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I had a bit of a blow up about a similar issue a few weeks back.

We’ve booked our venue and have a date, but he’s waiting on his investment to come through so he can buy me an amazing ring.

When the money comes in, he’ll be able to buy me a ring at 3 times the amount he could afford now – but i hit the roof when I found up he hadn’t saved a penny. I know this money’s coming in – but in the very unlikely case that it doesn’t – then what? I have to wait however long because he didn’t have a back up plan? and the money he had saved up went on an iPad this January?!

Grrrr.

I’m fine with it for now but omg if that money doesn’t come through I will not be happy. But he knows he made a mistake.

Men.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Like you said, there’s nothing you can do about it now, but that would really upset me.  I would be upest by his attitude, wanting to do one more fun thing before you could say no.  He may not have thought about it that way, who knows how guy brains work sometimes, but for me I’d for sure want to talk about it and clear the air so things like that didn’t happen in the future.  Then next time he wants to do something he thinks you won’t agree to you can sit down and talk about it together instead of him just guessing what you think. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would be highly annoyed personally. That’s really unfair of him IMO to watch you be depressed and upset just so he could buy a toy!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I would be LIVID. My Future Brother-In-Law bought his pregnant girlfriend a $1000 engagement ring on the same day that he bought himself a $2000 pistol. I think he took the term shotgunning to an extreme. If my Fiance had presented that to me I would have sent him and his gun back to the store to try again.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@artichokey:  oh yes. my friends boyfriend spent £5k on a mountain bike. she said she needs to be worth twice as much as the bike. he thinks otherwise!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@treacle:  Uncool. My thing is, I don’t care if you buy yourself toys. But don’t spend double on a toy than you would spend on my ring. And don’t make me wait, don’t put our lives on hold because you want to buy something recreational. So irritating.

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