(Closed) Why I am not sending Save the Dates

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds reasonable.  If it’s a local wedding, it’s easier to pull that off IMO.  But for a destination wedding, it’s nicer to give people as much lead time as possible to make travel arrangements.

Post # 5
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I always saw Save the Dates as being used for destination weddings. That way, guests would have the extra time to save money for the day or book off the extra time for work.

If the wedding is just a regular wedding, I don’t see the point.

Post # 6
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just make sure all of your close family and friends KNOW the date this early on so they don’t make plans!

Post # 7
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

If that works for you, then stick with it. It wouldn’t work for me because there’s more OOTs than locals and they need time to plan and budget.

Post # 8
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think save the dates are a relatively recent phenomenon anyways.  In the decades before us, they didnt really send out STDs so I see no reason you should have to now if you don’t want to. 

Post # 9
1012 posts
Bumble bee

I think, especially if you choose a long weekend or if its during the summer time, Save The Dates are fantastic.  We received an invite late last month for August and i was super anxious to get it because i did not know the date and our summers book up fast. I would have been rather annoyed if i had to completely rearrange holidays to make sure i could attend. 

So thats why i think they are a good idea for some. 

Post # 10
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, we’re sending them out because probably 80% of our guest list is Out of Town, it’s in the summer, and people who are invited can stop asking me when the wedding is.

Post # 11
13903 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most of my guest list is Out of Town, so I wanted to invite people to make sure they could come.  If it were local, then I wouldn’t worry quite as much.

Post # 12
24 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

Just don’t forget the converse of this: people you *do* like might not be able to come because they didn’t get enough notice. I’ve gotten frustrated with friends who told us six weeks or a couple of months ahead of the wedding and then were dissapointed when we couldn’t make it.

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