(Closed) Why we chose moissanite

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Jezika:  Oooooh do you have more pics of your ring?? It’s gorgeous!

We chose moissanite for the exact same reasons. I was so concerned with getting a Kimberely certified diamond that I never took the time to actually see how effective the certification process was. Once I discovered the gaping holes in the Kimberely Process, plus a few Bees enlightening me about the ethical concerns of Canadian diamonds, moissanite was the clear choice for us.

Post # 4
5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Your ring is beautiful!


I also really like that jewelry tree!

Post # 6
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i don’t know how i missed your post before (stumbled upon it now), but i really enjoyed reading your story. my Fiance and I had a similar one.  your ring is GORGEOUS, it was one of my faves! i gave it along with 5 others to Fiance, and he picked one that didn’t have any details down the side. :/  he is a pretty simple guy, i guess. haha

anyways, gorgeous ring!!

Post # 7
67 posts
Worker bee

Wow I love the side detail! So pretty!

Post # 9
27 posts

I have an honest question for you because it’s something that I really want to ask a moissanite owner and I’m new to Weddingbee. And I like your post πŸ™‚ 

Do you ever feel that you wish you have a diamond? I know that my partner wants to propose one day, so I look at lots of rings and even search loose diamonds on the sly (hehe- he’ll never know!). I just can’t believe the price. If I have a diamond I would really like 1 carat, as I feel that would look good on me and I like the roundness of the number. I can imagine myself being happy and proud and showing people and telling them about it when they ask..

But I love the look of moissanite and can hardly tell the difference. But it’s not a diamond? Why do I feel this way? Logically the price of a diamond is extortionate (10k for a good 1 carat, anyone??) and the ethics are so horrible. I wonder though, whether I would feel like an imposter with a moissanite. That I wouldn’t ever know what a real diamond is like and won’t get my chance to. I don’t know, this is really hard to explain. Perhaps like yourself, I might need to get a small solitaire that isn’t an engagement ring to get it out of my system!

I would appreciate your thoughts on this if you get a chance to reply πŸ™‚

Post # 10
2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Many people go moissanite for the reasons you posted. However know that no trade is completely ethical. It is only important you go with what makes you happy. The metal trade is just as bad as the diamond one. We went sapphire direct from a cutter (who sources direct from small family run mines), canadian diamond, recycled platinum, and made in the usa from a custom house. It made me feel really good. I personally have issues with chemistry labs focusing on making pretty stones rather than how to cure things like cancer, and autoimmune disorders or clean energy. I also face the reality there will always be mining, and that putting the money into places that try very hard to be ethical is better than complete avoidance. By supporting a small mine I keep them from selling out to a big conglomerate which wont pay fair wages. Gem cutting is also an art and a trade so I feel good knowing that I can put food on the table for someone who has mastered an art. Moissanite is cut by a machine it is not an art which means it employs less people.

As stated there is no 100% win in this situation, and it rubs me the wrong way when moissanite owners try to push it as 100% clean. Your ring unless from recycled metal in a custom house is still dirty. Your stone’s enginuity could have been used for the betterment of humanity and the earth. You created a carbon footprint that was not natural. You cut jobs, and pushed a small mine closer to being sold. However you did pick a stone not mined by children, and hopefully you went custom so your ring wasnt cast and set by a child either.


My ring wasnt 100% clean either but I sleep much better knowing I fed a lot of people dinner with our purchase, supported the local economy, and supported the arts.

Post # 11
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Elle23:  I too own a moissanite engagement ring for many different reasons, including the OP’s.  Actually, my fiance proposed with a diamond, not realizing I wanted a moissanite, and we later exchanged it.  However, I do understand that “feeling” you’re worried about–I actually have it when I look at certain posts on the bee.

The one thing I need to keep reminding myself is that all stones don’t look their best in all lights.  A genuine diamond isn’t going to look more beautiful for a greater percentage of situations than a moissanite.  And I know this, because I had the diamond first!

And another thing to remind yourself is not to obsess on this site.  I’m already trying to wean myself off of it because I have tied the time spent on these forums to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction because it’s impossible not to compare what you have with what others have.

Either way you go, I’m sure you’ll love the stone to death. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
1586 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, part of the decision was blood diamonds. I didn’t want something whose scarcity was manufactured, that people died over and that that were drilled into our heads to be necessary to show love. I know my partner loves me, I don’t need an overpriced stone to prove it.


I found diamondssuck.com while doing a paper on the globalization of diamonds and learned about moissanite. It was an alternative which was equally as beautiful and has significantly less baggage and blood behind it. 


I also NEVER wanted a ring that cost the price of a downpayment on a house so the cost was a huge factor.

Post # 13
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@dewingedpixie:  +1, plus moissy is sent to China for cutting . . .not the most humane country. . . .

Post # 14
5025 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think this thread demonstrates that there are two sides to every ethical coin. And many people who justify a moissanite vs diamond purchase go ahead to either fly or cruise for a honeymoon, which leads to all sorts of other environmental and ethical questions. None of us can be 100% “clean” in the way we live; it is almost impossible.

My point? That your ring is beautiful. There is no need to justify it for whatever reason in my mind. Because of the tricky mental acrobatics it sometimes takes to justify an “ethical” purchase, I simply choose not to judge, whether someone purchases a moissanite or a diamond. We all do what we can according to the things that resonate most with us.

Post # 15
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have the same ring but channel set! πŸ™‚

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