(Closed) Why I didn't talk about wedding plans, MIL issues, *LONG!!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
617 posts
Busy bee

@lapisphoto:  first Wow what a horrible human! how can one person be SO MEAN! I’m happy you made it threw it you pictures are beautiful!

Well I don’t have MIL Stories but I hope you will take some evil FSIL stories. She is horrible I just hope I can make it through their wedding and make it to mine! So after FI brother found out FI was proposing he quickly proposed to this monster pushing our engagement off because FI didn’t want it to look like an afterthought (we’ve been together 5 years longer than them)

started with “you better not get a bigger diamond then me or I WILL get a bigger one”

“O your engaged your wedding better be AFTER mine”

“O a beach wedding? ours is black tie you know a REAL wedding”

finally looks at my ring “I can’t believe you settled for under a carat” 

Just some of her gems and I can only hope I don’t slap her one of these days. Icing on the cake was when the FILs told me she started talking smack about me at dinner one night. FFIL told her off and ended dinner thank goodness for him!!

Post # 4
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Thank you so much for this post!  I’m dealing with a FMIL much like your MIL, and I, too, decided early on not to share much.  I tried including her at first, but she only had negative/insulting/controlling things to say.  After that, I decided it wasn’t worth it, and we only told her the date and location; everything else she will find out when the other guests do.  It’s made my life much better, and it’s good to know that this choice has worked out for someone else!

Post # 7
4 posts

you are very lucky your husband has stuck by you and you know he has your back. this is so important. I am envious of you. 


im glad your day was a success and you continue to go from strength to strength. 


your wedding day was your wedding day and who you choose to share details with is your business, especially if the person in question has been such a horrible person towards you in the run up to your wedding, as if its not stressful enough?


congrats on your marriage and health to enjoy x

Post # 8
3308 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


When parents try to control weddings, it is because they are grieving over the “loss” of their child. That doesn’t excuse your MIL’s behavior…just explaining where it could be coming from. 

My MIL hung up on me when she found out that we were eloping. She has also made fun of my weight and called me out at the breakfast table for snoring.

I am very magnanimous despite her rudeness. However, I told my husband that I will never stay in her home again while she is alive. I do not feel comfortable. The next time we visit, which will be a long long time, we will stay in a hotel. 

My FIL is my silver lining. He is a very funny and sweet man. 

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