(Closed) Why I will walk alone ..

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

let Fiance walk before you, he will stop halfway, then you walk down and meet him and walk the rest fo the aisle together.  I’ve seen it done, it’s lovely.

Post # 4
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve seen the same thing!  He enters (maybe you can still hide somehow), walks half way down, stops and turns a bit to watch the doors open and out comes you.  It was very romantic. 

Post # 5
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1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I also agree that it is a very romantic gesture.  I say go for it!

Post # 6
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just wanted to let you know, I feel your pain on the unstable mother thing.  Mine has always been high strung and irrational and has taken to throwing honest to god temper tantrums at completely unpredictable moments in recent years.  I’m terrified of what she’s going to do on my wedding day.  I don’t blame you one bit for keeping your contact with her minimal on the day of.

I think it will be beautiful to see you and your fiance walk together down the aisle.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

That’s a wonderful idea. I think it’d look beautiful. I’d like to do this, because my dad passed away and I know my mom would be crying like a baby(LOL) as will I.

It’ll be like walking into your new life together. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My mother has bipolar disorder and while she’s on medication, we never know from one minute to the next if she’s going to be OK or if there’s going to be a big, public blow-up. We haven’t been on vacation together as a family for 10 years because of this. She is always sorry and I really have to try not to heap blame, she does have an illness after all… but it’s hard. It’s hard to see it as a disability and not as a huge character flaw. It’s her brain, not her heart, I keep telling myself. Her heart is good, but her brain chemicals are messed up.

This is why I think we’re going to go with a morning wedding… get it all over with and there’s less time for something to go wrong…

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would be sad to walk alone but can also understand the stress of walking with someone that could cause trouble.  Is there a way to have your mom somewhere else and right before you walk down the isle have someone escort her to your side?  Don’t give her any time to say anything to you or anything.  Maybe have her in the back “getting her makeup touched up” or some excuse like that? At the last second have someone escort her over to you and walk down the isle.  As you are walking she shouldn’t say anyhting. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Do you really want your mom to walk you down? Im sure she can be on good behavior for the 10 seconds it takes to walk you down, I mean she’s going to be at the wedding all night anyways.  As for the groom meeting you halfway and waiting for you is such an awesome idea! If my mom wasnt walking me I would totally do it that way

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

You and your Fiance should walk together!

 

Post # 16
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s really a personal preference. If you really want your mom to walk you, then you should have her walk you. Like tammy said, can’t she behave for a few minutes?  Plus, she doesn’t have to say anything if you don’t want her to – you can stip the whole “who presents this bride…” or whatever. Then you don’t have to worry about what she might say.

I am walking myself down the asile, much to my mother’s disappointment. But my dad passed away a couple of years ago and this is my second wedding. He walked me down the asile once and I’m grateful for that (even though it was for the wrong guy). I feel like I’m older and wiser and walking myself down the asile, to me, says that I am making this choice of my own free will (not that we all aren’t!), but it’s more of a symbolic meaning for me. I’m still completely terrified that I will trip or something though!

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