(Closed) Why is a destination wedding so stressful? ( Long )

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: Lay out a schedule and a plan.

Take everything one step at a time.

There are some good planning calendars on theknot.com and weddignwire.com

Use those to organize your planning.

If there are decisions your Fiance needs to make, instead of going at him with an open ended list of options, narrow it down to your favorite choices. It’s easier to choose something from a few options then to talk abstractly about endless options.

Do you know anyone in the area who could scope things out for you?

Finally, don’t worry about who is there and who isn’t. The people who care about you will be there, and on the day I doubt you’ll really notice anyone other than your Fiance.

Good luck! Is it true your wedding is in 4 months? Those months will fly by. Focus on the important things and the others will sort themselves out.

Post # 5
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i agree with Kat about narrowing down choices, i did that with my Darling Husband and we never really fought over anything in the planning.  He just saw me get stressed alot, but didn’t understand why.  His attitude was we just need each other, an officiant, the beach and we are set!  And he understood i needed a dress….after that he felt anything was extra!  men…  anyway, point is i just decided i cared about all the other things and if he didn’t. fine, i wouldn’t bother him with it!

As for planning from afar, i know how stressful that can be.  Especially because i wanted to see and control everything and i couldn’t.  So that is just something you need to accept. But know its part of the package and while everything may not come out exactly as you envisioned – what you get in return is to get married in VEGAS!  that’s why you are planning from afar, right?  because of how exciting and fun it souds to get married in Vegas?

For things like hair trial, makeup and any sort of decor, i stressed over this too. I also didn’t get trials.  So what i did was bring lots of pictures.  i found several hair pictures of similar styles that showed front and back and showed the person who did my hair and she did a pretty good job of imitating it!  I learned from being a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the past how much a picture helps! Back when i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man overseas, i didn’t have a pic, and i hated my hair.  one of the other BMs had brought a picture and her hair was fabulous – same person did our hair!  So any decent hairdresser, i think, can imitate a picture.  

For makeup, i knew nothing. So a few weeks before my wedding i went to MAC and got a makeover and bought a ton of makeup that i wanted. On my wedding day, i still had someone do my makeup, but for things like lipstick and powder, i asked to use what i had brought so i could retouch as needed throughout the day.  Also, from doing the makeover at MAC, i had an idea of the colors and style of makeup i wanted.  so its like you are getting a trial, just not with the actual person who will do it on the day, but its definitely way better than no trial at all!

hope that helps!

Post # 7
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel the same way.  My Fiance wasn’t really into any of the planning, although I did make him help me with some.  He liked picking out the Save-The-Date magnets a lot!  LOL……  I also am concerned about my hair & make-up.  I have “hired” a hair dresser from afar, but have no idea how it will turn out.  I have THE picture that I finally narrowed down, so she will have to go from that and it will have to be good enough.  My make-up, I actually found a girl that helped me @ Sephora and I had a hotel rented for a photographer that fell through, so she is going to do our make-up for the hotel and even a trial next week.  This all just fell into my lap.  You are going to VEGAS!  Yay!  That is so exciting! 

I got a lot of help from here, obviously and my MOH/best friend – yeah not so helpful AT ALL!  So disappointing!  My poor Fiance was the one that it all fell upon.  I even think she is not having a bridal shower for me, which makes me super sad.  I will definitely know how to be the best Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor ever if ever given the chance. 

As far as you and you Fiance, you have to accept the fact that this stuff just doesn’t matter to some men.  If you can get over him not being so into it, then just plan with your mom or a co-worker.  My co-worker here has helped me tremendously and still talks to me!  Try to take a break from talking about it with him, although is hard.  This whole process is such a rollercoaster.  I wish it was easier, but we do want it to be perfect, don’t we? 

Post # 9
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Try having the ceremony at the Chapel of the Flowers. We are getting married there and have had good luck in speaking to planners and things of that nature for any question we may have. Visit their website littlechapel.com. There are tones of makeup artist in Vegas that will come to your hotel room. Try Glam Squad, they will do my makeup and only require a 25.00 deposit with the balance being due once they arrive at your room.

Post # 10
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As far as photography try Todd of Bently & Todd. They have great deals and awesome prices for 2 hours of photography.

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