(Closed) Why Is Addressing Invite Envelopes So Stressful!!!! <panic>

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I can act calm about this and give a rational (or what’s rational to me) explanation of how to address envelopes, but I’m sure I’ll be there once I begin the process! In the end, do what’s best for you, fits the people you’re inviting, and screw what Google tells you. I’m learning to throw some forms etiquette and tradition to the wind.

Post # 4
4674 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Stop googling this and do what works for you!  

Post # 6
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t care about formality. I just wrote first name last name and nobody seemed to care and everyone showed up. Don’t worry.

Post # 7
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Are you using one envelope or two?

If you are using one, the family invitation should say on the outside: Mr. and Mrs. FirstNameofGuy Smith / (=next line) ChildFirstName (with an additional line per child)

With two envelopes, the outside says: Mr. and Mrs. FirstName Smith; inside: Mr. and Mrs. Smith / ChildFirstName (with an additional line per child)

You should not use “and Family” because you want to be clear you are not including the people you are inviting’s parents or anything like that. 

As for the single mother with guest, the guest gets his own invitation issued to him at his home. The baby gets a seat and gets named on the invitation unless he/she will stay in mother’s arms the whole time, which is unlikely unless this is a true newborn, not just in infant, in which case, that baby wouldn’t even be born yet at the time you issue the invitation.

Post # 8
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hahaha….I’m not getting married till December but I recently had my freak-out when trying to figure out how to address STD’s.  My mom gave me GREAT advice….she said, “Amy, nobody from small town “East Texas”(where I’m from) gives 2 cents how you address your evelopes”! Man, that is so stinkin true! For those that I do not know as well (FI coworkers…ect, I may put a little more thought into it and make Emily Post happy) but honeslty, I can’t tell you the last time I got an invite and said, “this is not addressed correctly”.  I  did not like Mr and Mrs. and Family…so The Smith Family works for me. =)  What’s important to remember is noone else will see how you address others invites.  If you want to be “more” formal for one couple, then go for it, but if it’s for an old college friend, do whatever works =)



Post # 9
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I said screw it and wrote The Smith Family.  My friends all have a lot of kids…it was too much to write everyone’s names on the envelope. 

Post # 10
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I only used outer envelopes and wrote the kids names on the line below their parents. Luckily nobody had too many! 😉

Post # 11
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh for the love of Christmas…there’s a special way to address envelopes.  I can’t even pick an invitation lol…..fudge monkies.  I vote just go with what feels right to you.  

Post # 12
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went with what “felt” right. I tried to stay polite using Mr, Mrs, etc.  Honestly though think about this when was the last time you got a letter, invitation or other mail and stopped to be upset because of the way it was addresses.  Unless it had the wrong name or spelling on it I really never notice the details of how it was addressed.  Your guest will be excited to receive an invite to your wedding day not worried about proper etiquette and addresses.  Relax, address and send out your invites.  That way you can get to the fun part of getting back RSVPs.

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