Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
Entering full blown bride panic!
Why does google keep giving me different rules on how to address the envelopes? I didn’t even know people USED two envelopes for weddings!
Do toddlers get their own names on the invites or are they just lumped into ‘& Family’? But apparently you aren’t supposed to use ‘& Family’??
Writing Mr. & Mrs. Smith & Family seems like too many &’s.
Is ‘The Smith Family’ too informal? Do I REALLY care at this point???
And how do I address an invite to a single mother, with a guest, and her baby?
Do babies count as a spot at a table?
I need a drink!!! No….I need to go the gym, exhaust myself, then cry into a bottle of wine.
WHY DIDNT WE JUST GO TO VEGAS!
Post # 3
I can act calm about this and give a rational (or what’s rational to me) explanation of how to address envelopes, but I’m sure I’ll be there once I begin the process! In the end, do what’s best for you, fits the people you’re inviting, and screw what Google tells you. I’m learning to throw some forms etiquette and tradition to the wind.
Post # 4
Stop googling this and do what works for you!
Post # 5
I didn’t do two envelopes, which simplified things for me, but I did run into some unknowns on the formal addressing, so I turned to this:
Post # 6
I didn’t care about formality. I just wrote first name last name and nobody seemed to care and everyone showed up. Don’t worry.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Are you using one envelope or two?
If you are using one, the family invitation should say on the outside: Mr. and Mrs. FirstNameofGuy Smith / (=next line) ChildFirstName (with an additional line per child)
With two envelopes, the outside says: Mr. and Mrs. FirstName Smith; inside: Mr. and Mrs. Smith / ChildFirstName (with an additional line per child)
You should not use “and Family” because you want to be clear you are not including the people you are inviting’s parents or anything like that.
As for the single mother with guest, the guest gets his own invitation issued to him at his home. The baby gets a seat and gets named on the invitation unless he/she will stay in mother’s arms the whole time, which is unlikely unless this is a true newborn, not just in infant, in which case, that baby wouldn’t even be born yet at the time you issue the invitation.
Post # 8
Hahaha….I’m not getting married till December but I recently had my freak-out when trying to figure out how to address STD’s. My mom gave me GREAT advice….she said, “Amy, nobody from small town “East Texas”(where I’m from) gives 2 cents how you address your evelopes”! Man, that is so stinkin true! For those that I do not know as well (FI coworkers…ect, I may put a little more thought into it and make Emily Post happy) but honeslty, I can’t tell you the last time I got an invite and said, “this is not addressed correctly”. I did not like Mr and Mrs. and Family…so The Smith Family works for me. =) What’s important to remember is noone else will see how you address others invites. If you want to be “more” formal for one couple, then go for it, but if it’s for an old college friend, do whatever works =)
Post # 9
I said screw it and wrote The Smith Family. My friends all have a lot of kids…it was too much to write everyone’s names on the envelope.
Post # 10
I only used outer envelopes and wrote the kids names on the line below their parents. Luckily nobody had too many! 😉
Post # 11
Oh for the love of Christmas…there’s a special way to address envelopes. I can’t even pick an invitation lol…..fudge monkies. I vote just go with what feels right to you.
Post # 12
I went with what “felt” right. I tried to stay polite using Mr, Mrs, etc. Honestly though think about this when was the last time you got a letter, invitation or other mail and stopped to be upset because of the way it was addresses. Unless it had the wrong name or spelling on it I really never notice the details of how it was addressed. Your guest will be excited to receive an invite to your wedding day not worried about proper etiquette and addresses. Relax, address and send out your invites. That way you can get to the fun part of getting back RSVPs.