(Closed) why is everyone on my case about the weight I have lost?

posted 7 years ago in Fitness
Post # 33
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

you are perfectly fine, size 4-6 is not suppper skinny its normal. I think in America we have the opposite effect where people are so worried about offending people that are fat that we think fat is the norm and that a healthy weight is “too skinny”. Everyone else in the world thinks we are lardo’s! my aunt visited me in so cal once( where most people are not thattt fat) and she couldnt stop looking at people and mentioning how fat everyone was lol and yeah I agree we shouldnt deprive ourselves of food to try and look “hollywood skinny” that doesnt mean we stuff ourseves w/Mc donald’s every day, have rolls on our stomach, and call it normal. Ive seen a lot of bees on this site that post things like do you think I need to lose weight? and most people say no, you’re perfectly fine, dont lose a single pd even though they are visibly overweight and can stand to lose 10-15 pds nothinnng wrong with telling people that especially if they ask.. why is it okay to tell people oh you’re too skinny you need to gain weight but not okay to say oh you’re kinda fat you need to lose some weight..? Dont let fat be the norm!

Post # 34
5870 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

1) Take a hard look at yourself.  Can you truely and honestly say that what you’re doing is healthy and not excessive?

If yes – then stay the course and vent when you need to.  If you maintain the weight loss for a few years it’ll become the new normal for you and people will stop bugging you about it.  Let’s be honest, sometimes these comments come from people’s own insecurities.  It’s part of the price of success!

If no – then listen to what you’re family is saying and make sure you’re looking out for your health first and your dress size second. Especially since you’re in the maintaining phase you want to ensure you’re making choices that are sustainable and healthy.  

Post # 36
13905 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrstilly  I’ve followed you on MFP for a while, and I know you are doing this the healthy, smart way!  Don’t pay attention to anything these people are saying!

Post # 37
2910 posts
Sugar bee

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@inspiredcreations  I STRONGLY disagree that a size 10 “isn’t a healthy weight.” That’s a dangerous thing to suggest because it’s too vague to actually mean anything. Plenty of women can be at a healthy, normal weight and be a size 10, depending on their height and fat percentage and lifestyle.

Post # 38
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Jijitattoo  I’m not trying to suggest this based on my personal opinion.  Obviously, height/body composition play a part, and BMI is not everything, but an average height woman of 5’5″ at 150lbs (about a size 10), has a BMI of 25 and is in the overweight category.  

Post # 40
855 posts
Busy bee

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@inspiredcreations  USA size 10 is a UK size 14 and I would say that’s bordering in the ‘overweight’ category. Providing it’s due to fat and not muscle – but then I’ve never seen a size 14 be full of muscle…

Obviously, there are exceptions. But generally speaking.

Post # 41
2910 posts
Sugar bee

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@inspiredcreations  I still disagree. Even if your hypothetical woman *does* have a BMI of exactly 25, it’s kind of absurd to think that at 24.9 BMI she is “healthy” and at 25 she is “unhealthy.” This is the kind of thinking that creates an unwise focus on numbers instead of actual health, and the kind of thinking that breeds eating disordered behavior. For the record, I’m 5’5″ and have a BMI of 23, work out 5 days a week, and wear a size 10 — so of course being told that “a size 10 just isn’t healthy” is offensive to me, and probably plenty of other women as well. “No offense” is not an excuse for saying something offensive.

Post # 42
27 posts

It might be that they are a bit concerned you are getting a bit too thin — you did mention that after meeting with the doctor you are planning on gaining 6-8 pounds.

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