(Closed) Why is having a pregnant bridesmaid such a big deal?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
Member
7635 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

View original reply
@secretwife:  Great. Now there’s an ad for Poise panty liners on the side


>

Seriously though, I can’t imagine that being a bad enough problem to disrupt the ceremony or photos. More of an issue is the standing, and an understanding bride will let her sit.

Post # 48
Member
9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My Maid/Matron of Honor is pregant and will be 28 weeks at my wedding, while I am happy for her and do not expect her to put her life on hold for my wedding, it has been stressful trying to deal with dresses.  She was completely uninterested in picking one out (I told her what colour and said to choose from about 10 different styles and I would order/pay for it) and she was convinced she would only gain one size and was offended when I suggested ordering a few sizes bigger so we could have it tailored to her much closer to the date. Once the dress arrived, she cancelled every plan to have her try it on in the last 4 weeks.  I finally had her put it on yesterday and it fits like a glove, I am now super stressed that it will still fit her in 2 months for my wedding as the dress has been discontinued and I can not get another one for her. 

Post # 49
Member
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

View original reply
@secretwife:  This is charming….Im 6 months pregnant and a bridesmaid in 2 weeks. And your are wrong. 

I put alot of hours into planning the perfect hens night on my own for my best friend. Her hens night was amazing and I partied with them all in town till 1.30am. I have been there every step of the way and will continue to be. and im pregnant not disabled so I dont see standing being an issue. 

Post # 51
Member
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

One of my bridesmaids is going to be due 2 weeks after my wedding.  In June. I would love for her to still be in my bridal party, but honestly I’m more worried about it being stressful for her. My biggest concerns are that standing around outside in June is not going to be super comfortable and that trying to guess what size she will be come June is going to be tricky.  I would completely understand if she was no longer up for it.  Although I think the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses will probably be black, so you know, slimming… Plus selfishly I was looking forward to having her party it up with me before my wedding, because she was always the fun older cousin that taught me how to misbehave.  I’ll just have to carry on her legacy.

 

Post # 52
Member
3075 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I could see it being an issue if due date and wedding date were close, or if they didn’t take this into account therefore the dress didn’t fit. That’s it .

Post # 53
Member
7973 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If she might have to drop out at the last minute due to complications, it can be an issue. Also… fitting into her dress!

Post # 54
Member
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

View original reply
@208bride:  Thank heavens I wasn’t the bride in that situation…I was one of the other bridesmaids and I felt so bad for my friend (the bride) who is the most good natured person ever but even she was about to lose it on this girl who was supposed to be her longest, closest friend etc. So yeah, pregnancy is a personal thing and all, but 3 weeks before the wedding? I guess given everything else, (there were Issues, capital I) we should be grateful she didn’t show up on the day of with a dress that didn’t zip up!

 

Post # 55
Member
403 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
@Lizzy723:  You were upset because she didn’t plan her pregnancy around your wedding?

Post # 56
Member
6515 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@208bride:  i don’t get it either, my cousin in law was originally to be in my wedding and she pulled out very early on because she was due a month before the wedding, I could not have been more happy for her and I let her make the decision of whether or not she wanted to continue being in the bridal party but she was uncomfortable bc the dress might not fit her in time.

Personally, if she was due later (after my wedding) I woud have thought it was super cute to have a pregnant bridesmaid.

Post # 57
Member
956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

The only situation I would be upset is if my sister was going to be close to her due date at our wedding. It isn’t fair (for her., my parents,  or me) that our parents would have to choose between my wedding and their first grandchild. And since we live 12 hours apart, she may not be able to travel to be at my wedding and that would be horribly upsetting to me.

We are about 8.5 months out, and no baby news yet, but I am slightly terrified. WHo wants their family to miss their wedding day?

However, if she is 7 months or less pregnant, I would be excited. She is (and will be) an awesome bridesmaid, so I am not worried about having the “everything has to be about my baby” fiasco.

Post # 58
Member
8434 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@208bride:  No idea why it’s such a big deal; unless it’s something like your bridesmaid can’t make it to the wedding because she’s due that week, but that has more to do with scheduling conflict than pregnancy IMO.  However some brides get the idea that ALL the attention needs to be on the bride (I don’t get this), so maybe that’s why?  People get worked up over silly things when it comes to weddings.

Post # 59
Member
9791 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m pregnant now but I did agree to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for one of my good friends.  It’s about 5 weeks after my due date so hopefully everything will go smoothly.  I think I’d rather be a pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man than one with a 5 week old though lol Smile

Luckily I went in a couple weeks ago to try on the dress and my normal size still fit me (I was 21 weeks I think).  All because they picked a dress where the waist is a little bit higher up so it’s above my belly button. 

I am helping to plan her bachelorette but unsure if I’ll be able to go since I don’t know when she’s having it. 

I don’t think it’s a big deal if they’re under 7-8 months pregnant.  It’s only problematic if the wedding is around the due date.

Post # 60
Member
956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

View original reply
@atacrossroads:  I think she meant that she was upset that the timing wasn’t great, not that she was angry with her for not changing her plans. (at least that’s how I read it)

Post # 61
Member
10449 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t really get it either. Obviously it’s a problem if she is super pregnant and might have the baby near the wedding or worse, AT the wedding. But a little bit pregnant? If the bridezilla is worried about bridesmaids upstaging her or something, she’ll only look better next to the “fatties”. Hahaha. So yah, I don’t get it. 

The topic ‘Why is having a pregnant bridesmaid such a big deal?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors