(Closed) Why is he “The One”?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I pretty much knew soon after we started dating.. There was just something about him and us as a couple. We started dating when we were 20 (we are 29 & 30 now) and we actually broke up for a few years but even then we always “knew” that we were meant to be. Us breaking up honestly I think helped us see that even more so.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I think the idea popped into my head one day, but as far as knowing… It’s hard to say when I became 100% positive.  I frame it as, it would be really freaking weird if we didn’t get married and I often say that to people when they ask those dreaded “why” questions (why aren’t you engaged yet?).  I think the best way to describe it is every day and every way he reacts to me makes me know he’s the one.  It feels like we’re 2 puzzle pieces that just happen to fit together.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My dad told me once that he believes “the one” isn’t that one perfect person for you but that it’s the one person you choose to commit to and love for the rest of your life. At the time, I wasn’t sure I believed that, but my parents have been married for 27 years, so I suppose he might know what he’s talking about 😉

So for me, going into my relationship with my now-husband, I was a bit jaded about the whole idea of “the one” perfect person (after a pretty serious first relationship). Right from the start we talked about the possibility of marriage and were open about where we were at with that, but I knew he was the one I wanted to marry and spend the rest of my life with after his dad died and we shared that experience together. A death may not sound like the most romantic moment, but it was a deep, intimate experience of loving him through the good times and the bad and after that I knew :-).

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I had that ” Ah Ha” moment the first time we met. We have not spent more than 24hrs apart since our first date. We got engaged right at 7 months togther and are just beyond happy. He’s amazing.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For me it was after he stuck by me through an entire year of deep depression and severe anxiety. I was a monster that whole year, to him, to everyone around me, and to myself. I was on the phone with suicide hotlines every night, I had migraines that would last for weeks, I was dissociative…and he rolled with all the punches and listened to all my weird thoughts and came to counseling with me and was still there for me even when I insisted on breaking up with him. When we got back together and things fell right back to normal as if we had never broken up, I knew he was the one.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I knew he was the one from the moment he walked up to me =) Now that he has stuck with me through everything we have been through, (between having a child so young and looking though my psychotic breakdowns and severe depression) there is NO WAY I could ever be with anyone else. He has seen me through the worst times I will probably ever be in and he still loves me. the kind of commitment and love he has shown is not something I could live with out =)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we were together for awhile, I was ready to get married, he wasn’t….we broke up….ended up getting back together 7 months later, he proposed….realized he couldn’t live without me 🙂

I knew when he came back…if you love something, let it go….if it doesn’t come back, it was never yours to begin with, if it comes back, hold it forever…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We were on our first “date” and I was thinking to myself- geez… I hope he doesn’t think this is a date. And then he asks: “so what do you look for in a guy”. (Yep- he thinks it’s a date!)

So I listed all sorts of stuff- from enjoying mountain climbing to being wiling to go to the opera- and ended with “must be able to pick a good wine to go with a meal”, thinking for sure I’d get him with that one.

He retorts “I make wine in my basement.” 

I said “I love you.”

 

(And now, although we have done everything from mountain climbing to going to the opera. I’ve yet to see a batch of wine produced, LOL!)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

When we started dating I was 17 and he was 21. 2 months in I got a DUI and after my mom picked me up from jail they took me straight to the hospital because I threatened to kill myself. It was the culmination of the absolute worst time in my life. Throughout the entire thing he had my back like we had been together for years. He cried for me and with me and he made me never want to kill myself again because he cared for me more than anyone, including my parents,had. Now, he is battling his own demons, including depression and a night in jail, we sound compltetly insane but it has definitely pulled us together. I always say god gave him to me at my worst and I could never leave him to dispair at his worst. It was a rough year for us but I know it can only get better after the lessons we’ve learned. P.s. sorry this is awful I’m on my drioid.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t say mine was love at first sight…im not even sure I believe in that.  But definitely after the first date I knew he was the one.  I had never been on such a comfortable first date.  I almost forgot I was on a date because I was so relaxed around him and he made me feel so at ease to just be me.  No pressure to say or do anything out of my norm.  I felt like we were best friends instantly before we were official.  I almost thought it was all an act because I didn’t believe that such a truly genuinely nice guy even existed.  I had never met anyone quite like him, so self-assured and completely unconcerned with what anyone thought of him.  I admired and respected his attitude toward life.  Plus I knew he was a keeper because over time I found he was the only one who could bring me back down to earth (and put me in my place) when need be without so much as raising his voice.  I tend to be a rather intimidating woman to most men, a successful, outspoken pre-med student.  I knew he was a keeper simply when he refused to be scared off by me.  Been together for almmost 7 years and getting married in Sept!  

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@double0bride: That’s so cute!

I think mine was a gradual thing… our relationship went through a lot of really hard times right from the start. The same week that we started dating, he discovered that he had health problems that would prevent him from going into the military. I stuck by him. Both of his grandfathers died within that same year. I stuck by him. We worked together to come up with a plan B for his life. I loved him- but I wasn’t really sure how I felt about the institution of marriage, with so many failed ones in my family.

Then the rough stuff started happening to me- one of my best friends died, and he stuck by me. I fell into a pretty steep depression, and gained 50 pounds in 4 months. He was there. I was bigger and more self-concious than I had ever been in my life, but he made me feel beautiful and loved. He supported me through everything, and made me feel confident and beautiful for the first time in my entire life. And I’m a lot to handle, even on good days. He just has a pretty good grasp on how I work- a hell of a lot better than anyone else, anyway.

So I think that after all that, I realized that this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We always work things out and support each other in absolutely everything we do. We make each other happy. We keep each other sane. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s difficult for me to say because I didn’t believe in love at first sight or “the one”, but the moment I shook hands with Fiance and we locked eyes at the bowling alley where we met, I knew..we both knew there is an intense connection between us.  Everything ceased to exist around us and a calm yet familiar feeling as though we know each other set in. We spent the next few days talking via email and chat (he began sending me sweet messages wishing me good morning every day)…when we met again the second time.. my heart was on cloud 9 when he smiled at me..we knew it was the real deal.  We met each other’s families on our third and fourth dates and after the fourth date we were official.  One month later, he proposed! oh..and our parents ended up meeting at the most unlikely of places two months later (against their wish to meet…they didn’t want to meet yet). We will be married after a 20-month engagement  and just shy of our 2 year from the day we met. It was a whirlwind for this 29-year old cynic who believed love only works in the movies.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

This thread makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. I love reading these.

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