Post # 1
I’m writing my wedding ceremony from scratch and I’m trying to find a way to eloquently verbalize why it’s important to us to be married in front of our closest family and friends as opposed to being married in private.
I think I’m leaning toward it having something to do with sharing the all of the best things life has to offer with the people we love, but I’m just having troble getting it down on paper.
I was hoping you bees could tell me why it’s important to you.
Post # 3
Well, this won’t be very elequent, but I was important to me to finally verbalize what we have known in our hearts for years. I have already promised my FI that I will love and honor him for the rest of our lives, but I feel that commitment becomes stronger when you say those vows in front of God, and the people you love.
It was also important because I know that many of our friends and family are overjoyed for us. They have been a part of creating who we are, so I feel they have a right to share that happiness with us.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
For me its not so much them being present for the wedding as much as it is for them to celebrate with me that I married my best friend. Since most of my guests are from out of state I wanted to make the trip more worth their while and have them witness our union. Also we aren’t just marrying each other, but joining our children in this marriage as well. I want people to see us as a family and not just as me and FI joining in marriage. Family is the theme in our wedding.
Post # 5
We’re having a pretty small wedding (50 ppl including guests and bridal party etc). The reason we’re having a wedding instead of eloping…is because we believe that who we are today is in part because of the people we’ve invited to share in our day. They’ve been our family, our friends, our mentors. They catch us when we fall and root us on as we climb. And we also believe that they will be a part of our lives in the future. So even though the marriage is between two people…we are two people with histories and loved ones and they’re all part of the package. 🙂
We’re doing a ceremony ( a version of a rose ceremony) where we’ll have a member from our guest list bring up a rose to help us complete a bouquet. Each person with a rose will be explained to represent a group of people in our lives…so a rose will be brought up from a family member to honor the family members in our lives, a friend will bring up a rose to honor the friends etc.
Post # 6
What a difficult question. For me… er… it sort of doesn’t matter.
But, if I had to pick a reason, it would be that marriage is a social contract as well as a legal and religious one, and successful partnerships often rely on the support and love of the wider community. Therefore, a public marriage is a way of underscoring the concept of social contract.
Er… not very romantic, is it? Sorry!