(Closed) Why is it inappropriate to wear white or ivory to a wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
1113 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t care, I also really don’t get it.  I wouldn’t personally do it because I know how stuck people are on it (plus I tend to stay away from white, even outside weddings), but if someone showed up to my wedding in a white dress, I wouldn’t think twice.  Same thing with bright red, or any other “forbidden” colors.

If people are “confusing you” with the bride at a wedding, why are they even in attendance?  Also, it’s pretty freaking obvious who the bride is, and all eyes are on the newlyweds anyways.


The only thing I really think is a big “no no”, and it even depends on the wedding theme, are “club” type dresses, and being scandily clat in general.  To me, wedding are still sacred and should remain tasteful regardless of your religious beliefs.  

Other than that, I want guests to wear what they feel excellent wearing.

Post # 62
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think the “why” is that it isn’t socially acceptable.  Yes some brides dont care or even notice, and yes the bride will be “the bride”/the center of attention either way, but their are other brides who would be very upset or more traditional guests who would find it rude. 

As other PP have said there are so many other colors and patterns that are available.  Why would you want to match the person meant to stand out. If I knew the bride was walking down the eisle in a pink dress I would avoid pink at all costs, but that is just me!  There is no question who is the bride ever, but there is no need to potentially stir up drama on a day when it isn’t needed.





Post # 63
10635 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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Miss Tattoo:  But that is quite  different isnt it, specific  requests and all. As with  the pp who wore green and was OK with guest wearing that ( they could, I assume, hardly have guessed green would be  off limits or the wedding colours s)

The situations you describe  are not the same  at all as the girl/woman who turns up in obvious formal plain white /ivory. Not wearing  it is a mark of respect to the bride, whose wedding day it is and who is expected to wear a white dress. It is not really about being   mistaken for  the bride ( tho it happened at a wedding  a pp was at , the white  eyelet affair !), it’s about,  as   many pp’s have said, of all the colours  you could choose, for one  day, for heavens sake, let the bride be the only one in it!

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