- 9 months ago
- Wedding: May 2017
The other night we were at dinner with friends and another couple we had not met came and brought their baby. It was beautiful and sweet. Alittle fussy, but hey, it’s a baby! No big deal. Well my husband and I are totally baby crazy and although we are still on the younger end (25) we’re looking into starting a family next year or so (26-27). So we were cooing at the baby and saying how she was so beautiful we wanted one! And the mothers immediate reaction was “No! Wait! You’re so young, you have your whole life ahead of you!” Dad chimes in and says “Wait until you’ve done everything you want to do and gone everywhere you want to go before you have a baby.” Now, I know they love their baby, but their reaction was so volatile and negative like they had caught a disease rather than created a life.
I have faced this same reaction from many friends and family who have had a child and I have never really known what to say back. Everyone says “wait” and “it changes everything” and I hear that but why is that so bad?! I feel like all everyone does on Facebook and at gatherings is complain about having children and I’m so confused. I get that they are work, but aren’t they also supposed to be the most rewarding job ever and a product of your love with your spouse?
I dont know. I guess I’m just looking for some perspective. I get that kids are a lot of work but with all the negativity I’ve been hearing when we mention starting a family in the next year or two we are faced with such negativity. I’m feeling so disillusioned and I’m wondering WHY is it so bad?!