(Closed) Why is it "taboo" to wear white to someone else's wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 46
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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everyusernameistaken:  I don’t know how it originated, but it propagates because nobody wants everyone at a wedding to think they’re an asshole.  If I somehow had to wear white to a wedding I guarantee it would bother me more than the bride, because I’d be thinking “yep, everyone here thinks I’m an asshole, this is super” the whole night.

I have a friend who thinks you can’t wear red to weddings either…she made this “fact” loudly known to our whole table before a friend walked by wearing a red dress.

Post # 47
5356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

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lovelyruby:  YES!! We are having 10 guest at our beach wedding and every single one of them have asked us what we want them to wear… I could give zero fucks, but Fiance on the other hand, wants them to wear blue or white, and I love that idea! My dress isn’t white so since Fiance will be the one next to me, I told him he can’t wear white because I don’t want us to clash, but everyone else can! I think the blue and white will look amazing on the beach! 

Post # 48
96 posts
Worker bee

i dont know the historical significance of not wearing white as a guest. i do agree with other people that you dont want to take any attention away from the bride. it’s her day. like other social customs in our culture, we shake hands and make eye contact and smile when we greet someone. i dont know the historical significance of that, but its just something we do.

now i know a lot of peopl who had never heard of not wearing white to a wedding. because i see it ALL THE TIME. just went to a wedding last weekend where a guest wore a stark white spaghetti strap floor length backless dress. for sure everyone was staring at her as the asshole of the party (or maybe it was just me )

to each her own though. if YOU are the bride and YOU dont care -more power to you 🙂


Post # 49
4522 posts
Honey bee

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everyusernameistaken: there are nearl 9.5 million Google results to the question, “why do brides wear white?” There are nearly 35 million Google results to the question, “why don’t wedding guests wear white?” Just sayin.

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Post # 50
1183 posts
Bumble bee

not weating White because it’s tradition I can  get my head around. Especially if its a traditional wedding. 

But, any pale colour, any white with print cocktail dresses, anything with any white, cream or Ivory in it at all etc just like I said in my lat post- self absorbed.

Post # 51
1354 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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jennmariee:  I’ve heard this about black too. I don’t know why it or red is taboo, but I think it stems from what the colors are typically associated with back in the day. Black = funeral, red = harlet. But when my uncle passed away last year we all wore red and black in honor of his favorite football team, GA Bulldogs and when my aunt passes we better wear anything other than black. But a lot of Brides don’t wear white anymore either.

OP… I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding, but I don’t wear white anywhere. If the bride is not a “it’s my day don’t upstage me” kind of person and you want to, go for it. I’m not wearing white and contemplating putting my daughters in Ivory or very pale peach. I feel it’ll stand out more with my dress and our colors.

Post # 52
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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everyusernameistaken:  Its out of concern for the guests. After all, if the guests look too much like the bride, evil spirits that are attracted to the wedding might curse them. 😛 Whoops, that’s the origin of the bridesmaid tradition. 

I dunno when that tradition started actually. Probably soon after 1840, when white started to become a popular wedding dress color. 

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