- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
As a young bride (21, will be just shy of 22 for the wedding), I’m curious to know:
Why do so many brides think that it’s necessary to be well-established before they get married?
I’d love to get all the young ladies’ opinions on this. I see a lot of young women like myself who know they want to get married, or who are even already engaged, that want to push their wedding off until they finish grad school, or get x job, etc etc.
I know a lot of women want to wait until after they get their degree, which in most cases I think is a good idea. But what about women who have been in long term relationships? I’ve been with my Fiance for four years now, nearly five by the time we tie the knot. Taking into consideration I’m someone who didn’t want to live with my Fiance before we were actually married, this was why I decided not to wait:
We’ve been together long enough at this point that I’ve known he was ‘the one’ for quite some time. No graduate school opportunity or career path could ever change that for me. We are committed to being together regardless of where life leads us, so why not be married and together?
From a purely logical sense, money is also a consideration. It sounds counterintuitive, but quite honestly, after sitting back and looking at our housing situation, and the gas, time, etc we use going back and forth between each others’ places, it’s just less expensive to get married and live together.
Will we be poor? Absolutely. I don’t graduate until a couple of months after we get married, and he has another three years of school ahead of him, as he has to go to grad school for his profession. But that’s ok. I see no reason why we would make any more or less money whether we were married or not.
So are you girls waiting for a certain event to occur before you say your nuptials, or are you gonna go ahead and tie the knot early, and why? I’d particularly love to hear from women who are in a long-term relationship but who still want to push their wedding back for various reasons.