Post # 1
I just received a birthday card in the mail from DH’s grandma. It’s addressed to Mrs. Husband’s name and it really irked me! I could understand if it was addressed to us as a couple but it’s a birthday card that is just for me! I HAVE A NAME! I’m definitely not one of those who is against the whole “Mr. and Mrs. Hubs Name” but to address MY birthday card using HIS name reallly rubbed me the wrong way.
Sorry, I just wanted to get that off my chest! Whew!
(And yes, despite how it sounds, I do appreciate the card lol. However, this is the same woman who was meddling around in our wedding plans and even called the venue multiple times trying to find things out behind our backs… so every thing she does probably gets to me a bit much now)
Post # 3
that’s odd. I’d want a card addressed to me for my birthday no less, with my name! Even if I took his last name, I STILL HAVE A NAME!
Post # 4
@mimsmims7: Maybe she meant to be cute? I could totally see my DH’s grandma doing that, especially if we had just gotten married. Personally, it would make smile… not at all tick me off.
Post # 5
Uhhh. That is super strange. Maybe she thought she was being cute by addressing you by that?
ETA: Beaten by 40 seconds! Same thought process?
Post # 6
@mimsmims7: Was it addressed to Mrs. His Firstname Lastname, or just Mrs. His Firstname?
Post # 7
Maybe she’s just happy you’re married to her gandson. Looks like you got married not too long ago, so she probably thought it would be cute for your first birthday as a married woman. Not gonna lie, you might be having a slight over-reaction because she was already on your nerves.
Post # 8
That’s kind of weird especially since it’s YOUR birthday- not a card being sent to both of you. Happy birthday though!
Post # 9
@mimsmims7: Since it’s his grandma, I’d cut her a little slack. She’s probably just old fashioned and is used to traditional etiquette. I also know that there are some women who are really excited to be a “Mrs. His Name” and wouldn’t be offended by it. Since it’s technically not incorrect for her to address you by your husband’s name, if you have a preference then you need to let her know.
Post # 10
LOL It’s totally old school. I’m sure she was just either being very traditional or thinks it’s cute. I totally call my friend’s “Mrs. So&So” for several months after they get married because it’s fun to play with their new name. I tease my BFF cause she has a PhD & her SO doesn’t but I tell her I’m going to call her Dr. HisName HisLast and confuse everyone.
Post # 11
@MrsTillerResq: “Maybe she meant to be cute? I could totally see my DH’s grandma doing that, especially if we had just gotten married. Personally, it would make smile… not at all tick me off.”
Agreed. Combine grandma trying to be cute, with her being excited you’ve married her grandson, with her being old (and therefore potentially more in to traditional etiquette) and just smile at her gesture and move on.
Post # 12
Speaking of… after my wedding we’ll be Dr. & Mrs. Blah. Can I be called Mrs. Dr. Blah? Cause that would be AWESOME. 😀 I like to tell people we have 3 degrees between us. Yeah… he has 3 and I have ZERO. I don’t care, I get half of what’s his when we’re married right? So I claim 1.5 degrees. 😛
Post # 13
my mother gets things like this. apparently in past generations, that was the appropriate thing. i find it nice, know what i mean? then again, i like old fashioned things.
Post # 14
Maybe she forgot your name. 🙂
Post # 15
@MexiPino: I LOVE your reasoning! lol
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@MexiPino: hahahahah love that thought process