Post # 1
Help, I’m almost at my wits end with my crazy cat. We’ve had him for almost two years now. We adopted him when he was a year old and he has always been a nutcase.
Early days he would attack our toes and fingers at night if they twitched under the blankets. We corrected him of that within a couple months by locking him out of the bedroom the moment he did it.
You can’t pet him in most cases because he will bite or scratch if you reach for him. His pupils get huge and then he becomes very aggressive. We keep his claws trimmed so he ends up resorting to his teeth.
Nowadays if he comes over to sit in your lap on the couch or lay on us in bed at night, he seems really cuddly and friendly. But.. without any warning if you reach across him (not even touching him), he bites. Not just little bites, but he launches himself after the arm, gets his paws and claws around it, and attaches his teeth wherever he can. Most of his bites and scratches draw blood.
I don’t know what to do with this crazy cat! Both me and Fiance have recent scratches and scars on our arms from his attacks. We try to ignore him when he is being grumpy (most of the time), but even when he’s being nice he snaps so quickly.
Right now he’s just a pain in the ass but what happens when we have kids? There’s no way I want that furry little monster around children!
Any advice would be lovely.
Post # 3
Has he been to the vet recently? If there is an underlying health issue, this can cause your cat to be in pain and can cause him to lash out.
This happens a lot, for instance, in older cats that have been declawed, because it causes arthritis. Obviously this isn’t the particular case with your cat, but he may be in some kind of discomfort due to a different health issue.
Also, cats can tend to get overstimulated. Pay attention to his tail when you’re petting him; the tail says it all.
If he puts his ears back, or you start to see his tail lashing back and forth, even if he is purring or seems to be snuggly, that’s a good indication that he has had just about enough and that it’s time to just let him do his thing.
ETA: How ofted do you spend time playing with him, and for how long? My cat will do this occasionally if he has been left alone or hasn’t been played with all day, because he’s trying to play with us like he’d wrestle with one of his littermates as a kitten.
Post # 4
I’d ask your vet about feliway?
My sister had just this skitzo cat, I mean he was just MEAN all the time and beat up the older cat often enough my sister had to get him stitches, would attack her and other people randomly.
Her vet said he was just a mean cat. He is perfectly healthy, just mean.
My sister was about to loose her mind. she tried feliway as a last resort. And it’s worked so well. He’s a fat happy sweet cat now.
Ask your vet, and give it a try.
Post # 5
My dad’s cat is a maine coon about the same age, and will be “agressive” with my dad (leaping, clawing, gnawing) when he needs to play. They play fight for a few minutes every day (my dad wore a gardening glove until the cat learned not to draw blood).
It’s easy to tell this agressive play from the cat’s fight-or-flight behaviour, because he will hiss, lay back his ears, and lash his tail if he actually feels threatened.
Post # 6
I coulldn’t tell from your post, is your cat fixed? I’ve heard that unfixed males can be just plain mean.
Post # 7
Sounds like the in-laws siamese! They have two of them, but the one male is extremely aggressive. He will also attack the other male out of nowhere. We just wrote it off as that’s his personality.
I would speak to a vet if you are concerned. You may be able to find out more information.
Post # 8
@crystalrae: I had a cat like that once…it was just his personality. He even got red-flagged at our vet because he was super agressive and bit the vet (she was fine, she called him a big grumpy sweetheart and just kept petting him. What an animal person she is!).
I agree that you should get him checked out to make sure he is in good health and isn’t acting out in pain. But, it may just be that he is an agressive dirtbag (lol).
Our cat did grow out of it somewhat as he got older, and became quite cuddly – for him.
Post # 9
Have you taken him to the vet? If cats are aggressive it normally means that they’re in pan
Post # 10
Because he is a cat!
Haha…only kidding. You can ask your vet, but it is probably something that is going to have to take a lot of patience and understanding to deal with. Is he intact? Does he have toys and a place for himself? Are you playing rough with him sometimes? Cats can be pretty particular about things.
Post # 11
Thanks for the input so far Bees!
@rachelmichelle: Once for a blocked bladder and another time for a checkup because we thought it was happening again. Seems to be quite healthy, just a bit of an asshole 🙂 We play with him depending on his receptiveness to it. There are a few ‘no fly’ zones, so we can’t touch him if he’s sitting on one of our barstools or on the stairs as he will instantly try and grab you with his claws. We’re at home and awake with him usually 5-6 hours a day, but most of the time he’s off doing his own thing. We try to use toys on a string and other stuff to help excercise him.
@HelleCat: This is a good idea. Next time I bring him in I’ll ask about it. The only time he’s ever been super nice for like a whole week was when he was recovering from me accidently poisoning him with daffodils. Didn’t know they were toxic to cats and he ate them… maybe medication is what he needs!
@LizTheProcrastinator: Funnily enough I am working from home today so every hour or so he climbs into my lap for a snuggle. He usually doesn’t last more than 10 minutes before attacking me but I don’t touch him too much. I was just texting a second ago and he was glaring at me with huge pupils and flat ears. I do not understand the little bugger.
@Eckle: He was fixed at about a year old when we adopted him.
Post # 12
@LilacViolet: I’m starting to think more and more that he’s just mean! He attacks anyone that comes to visit if they cross him. He is well known amongst our circle of friends for being a tool. Most of our friends just avoid him.
@Yellwill: He was last at the vet a couple months ago and has been 3 or 4 times since we got him. Maybe we’ll bring him in again after the holidays and ask about his behavior issues. If it’s pain, he’s been in pain for two years! Hope that’s not it. I like to think he’s just a jerk!
@Cady: Fixed, has toys, has a tree/house thing and there are certain places in the house that he goes and keeps to himself so I think that he’s got lots of private time.
Sometimes I think maybe he’s lonely and he should have another cat friend but what if he hates the other one and what if the problem just doubles?!
Post # 13
Seconding rachelmichelle, cats can get a bit worked up if you aren’t playing with them enough, especially indoor cats. We are lucky enough to live in a place wiith no real threats for outdoor cats, so we have indoor/outdoor cats and they still get a bit nutsy if we don’t throw a ball around for them in the evening. Some cats are cool with chilling around the house most of the time, but others (esp younger boy cats) need a bit more stimulation.
Post # 14
Do you play with him until he’s panting and completely worn out?
Post # 15
@Chaoslight: Occasionally but not all the time. Would that help?
Post # 16
That would probably help, because he would get worn out. It’s an option to try, just to see if it helps. It’s something that Jackson Galaxy suggests for cats have a lot of play aggression. On the other hand, there are some cats that actually do need medicine to help some issues.