(Closed) Why is my Ex BF checking up on me after we broke up?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
10546 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

This sounds like Highschool stuff. Also sounds like he probably has someone else he’s testing out and if that doesn’t work out he’ll fall back on you.

Block him and move on.

Post # 17
6947 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015


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cillakilla50 :  Sounds like a drunk and alone dial to me.  If you are done with the relationship (and it sounds bad from all sides) then block and move on.  Not your problem anymore.

I would take to heart the things he said when he broke it off though – are you the jealous type?  Do you have problems with your boyfriend having a life when you’re not around?  The reason I ask is not to be an asshole but to point out that you may still want to work on yourself a little before jumping into a new relationship.  Saying things like “I hope one day you realize what you lost,” for example, is spiteful and bitter, not strong.  Whether he’s a dick or not, he does seem to have some insight about your own personality, so  I recommend you don’t just brush it completely aside.

Post # 18
9084 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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skunktastic :  Very well said.


Sorry OP – breaking up sucks but if he is calling at 3am whilst lonely and asking if maybe you want to pick it up in 2 months, his intentions are not good enough – simples.

Post # 19
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

He is just keeping you warm as a back up in case he get’s lonely and doesn’t find anyone else. You did the right thing by telling him to not contact you again. Focus on you, get over him and live your life. Nothing worse than keeping that “maybe in two months” in the back of your head…

Post # 20
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You did the right thing girl. Don’t look back. 

Post # 21
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Never make someone a priority who only thinks of your as an option.

I wish a mother**ker would call my phone at 3AM??


Post # 22
1687 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Sorry I said it once on the boards and I’ll say it again.. when a dude acts all nuts (dumps you, calls you at 3am, says he wants you back but in 2 months whaaaa??) he’s probably sleeping with someone else or wanting to. 

People act all erratic when their conscious is guilty. 

Good for you!!!! Keep up the NC!! You deserve better. 

Post # 23
3033 posts
Sugar bee

I have been there done that. No woman should put herself through this kind of crap. You are worth a man who will want to be with you and will 100% commit to you. The fact that he wants to take a break and then get back together just implies he wants to sleep around. If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t have to do that. 

It might be hard now, but remember the faster you cut ties and move on, the faster you can find the right one for you. Stay strong and do what makes you happy!!

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