- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Sorry for the wall of text, but thanks in advance for reading.
my fiance and i have been together since highschool (~10 years!) and we’re finally getting married next august. i get that we have been together for a long time, but 5 of those years are when i was in college and we saw eachother on weekends (and not even all weekends…), and then we’ve lived together since 2010. so, we lived together a while before he proposed, and that is exactly the way i wanted it to be.
we got engaged in september 2013; planned our wedding for august 2015. we originally wanted to elope with our parents only, and have a small family party in NY afterwards. we decided against it, since my siblings made it clear they were really excited and wanted to be there, etc. we decided to have a small wedding, and planned it out a year and a half to give our family enough time to save money for travel, vacation time, etc. we MADE SURE our families were fine traveling from NY to CO for the wedding, as it is important to us that everyone can make it since we were sort of changing our plan for them.
well, when i went home this past august, i found out my 1 brother was thinking about NOT COMING, because he would rather go to Disney in FL on vacation and he couldn’t afford both. ….. uhhhhhh, what? apparently, he thought it wouldn’t be worth it, would be boring, i mean, what is there to do in the rocky mountains? so, i cried about that for an entire day, then talked to my soon to be SIL (love her) and realized there wasn’t anything i could do about it, and more than likely he would come. in the past month or so he’s actually said he was excited to come, because one of his customers at work told him breckenridge, co is amazing. so, it only took a stranger for him to be excited about his sisters wedding; cool.
and then today… talking to my mom… apparently my step-dad (who is basically my dad, since my real dad isn’t in the picture anymore) may not come. he has a “better” excuse, as he messed up his shoulder when he fell on the roof shoveling snow. he may not have time off of work. so i get it, but i can’t help but feeling aggravated none the less.
my aunt and uncle have already told my mom they’re not coming; they have to go to mexico to relax since they have a house there (which they do twice yearly).
thankfully, my fiance’s family has not been too crazy. the only thing that happened there was his aunt and uncle were going to come, but now probably are not because their old exchange student is getting married in europe and they couldnt afford to go to both weddings, so guess which one they’re probably going to? (hint: not ours).
so now i’m getting REALLY aggravated with everyone. as far as i know, no one has any issues with us in either of our families. i guess we don’t call as much as we could, but that goes both ways. we’re good kids, we’re responsible, we’re having a low key wedding, we have plans to treat our families while they’re here. i mean, we’re being as considerate as we possibly can be. the only thing we could have done to make it more convenient for them would be to get married in NY; which we dont want to do, we don’t live there, we’re never moving back, we hate it.
i dunno. i guess i am just bummed that no one else seems to be excited about our wedding. i know no one cares as much as we do, but it would still be nice to have some support and interest. i feel like i get the eye rolls any time i bring anything up, which isn’t often since i don’t want to be annoying.
anyway, would love to hear some of your experiences with this. i know i just need to go with it, if they don’t make it, then fine. those that want to be there, will be. but it still makes me so sad.
- This topic was modified 3 years ago by andi_isit303.