- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
About 4 years ago my Fiance and I met another couple, let’s call them the Fluffypants’. At this point we had been together for 2 years and living together for 1. We were at a industry related event, as we all work in the same industry, but not together. Mr. Funkybutton had to work all weekend at the event, and I spent a lot of time with Mr. & Mrs. Fluffypants (whom at the time were not married). I became good friends with the couple, especially Mrs. Fluffypants. My Fiance also considered them friends of his, although they really never spent a lot of time together, and while I had spent time with these people without him, he had never spent time with them without me.
2 years ago the Fluffypants’ got married. Mrs. Flufflypants called my Fiance on her wedding night to tell him, which struck us both as odd. I was sitting next to him when she called, and passed on my congrats, which she ignored. There was no, “Say hello to Funkybutton!” or anything. We were both kind of hurt that we weren’t invited, since at this point we still considered them good friends. Since then a number of things have happened that have lead me to believe that these people are not my real friends. Fiance feels the same. They do this thing were they pretend that we are best friends in front of other people, but call me names behind my back (Mrs. Fluffypants has admitted this herself), and too much other crap to even go into.
Since she has kept up appearences, so have I. I am nice to her, but I know in my heart that I could not count on these people as friends. That’s ok I guess, it happens. But whats really bugging me (and my FI!!) is that she keeps calling/texting my Fiance since the first time she called him on her wedding night 2 years ago. And not me. If she’s coming in from out of town and wants to stay at my house, she calls him not me. If she wants to make plans with us a couple OR JUST WITH ME, she calls him. She texts him all the time just for no reason.He has started just ignoring her, or saying “Why don’t you ask Funkybutton?”, but she still never talks to me directly.
We finally started telling people about our engagement this weekend and while Fiance out playing golf I guess she heard it through the grapevine because he got 3 texts and a phone call from her, and a text from her husband. Neither of them contacted me. When he got home and showed me I told him he should at least say thank you, which he did, and she started asking for pictures of my ring to which he replied “Funkybutton has them, why don’t you ask her” and she refused and told him to take a picture himself to send to her!! I was sitting right there and we both felt just really uncomfortable.
This whole thing is so weird to me. They were more my friends than his in the first place, but either way we met them as a couple and Mrs. Fluffypants seems waaay too attached to my FI! I would never in a million years dream of calling Mr. Fluffypants instead of Mrs. Flufflypants to make plans or ask the type of questions she asks him. I have no opposition to my Fiance having female friends, but he likes her even less than I do. The worst part is, they’re coming into town later in the month and I don’t know if I can be nice anymore, this whole thing seems out of hand to me. Am I overreacting here?
Thanks for reading this whole long mess 🙂