(Closed) Why is my "friend" calling my FI?!? Am I being unreasonable?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@funkybutton:  well 1) congrats on having such a trustworthy Fiance. when i first read the title of this post, i figured i was going to be reading another post about a girl that snooped in her FI’s phone and found some confusing messages. so i’m glad it wasn’t that!

2) if i were him, i already would have told her, look, it makes me uncomfortable that you only contact me, and not her. if you have something to speak with her about (your ring, meeting up with you, etc.) then you need to contact her directly. you’re coming off in a somewhat unsavory way, and i don’t want you to be seen in a negative light by either of us.

she sounds like a creep. good luck!

Post # 4
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4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is it possible that you offended her and she likes your Fiance as her friend, but not you?  That’s the only thing I can think of.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is really bizarre, especially if they are close enough friends that she stays at your house when shes in town? If I were your Fiance I would just straight up ask her, “how come you don’t ask Funkybutton yourself?”

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@funkybutton:  why doesn’t your Fiance stop responding to her texts and not to answer the phone when she calls.

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

No, I don’t think you’re overreacting. I’m actually wondering why you two are still “friends” with this couple, since it seems like neither of you actually like them. 

My opinion: ditch this couple. Stop responding to their texts, refuse their requests to stay at your house, go out with them, etc. 

Post # 8
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That sounds totally bizarre.  That sucks that they turned out not to be the friends you thought they were.  Sounds like it’s time for Mr. Funkybutton to cut the cord completely!

Post # 9
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70 posts
Worker bee

You are not invited to their wedding, she admits to talking badly about you, and they are unkind and disrespectful to you. What do you have to lose ending this facade of a “friendship”? You do not deserve this at all.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Very strange.  You’re not overreacting, in fact, you’re underreacting.  Why haven’t you confronted her by now?  If one of my friends texted my husband instead of me, the first thing I would do is ask her what’s up with that?

Do you want to maintain this “friendship” that’s not really a true friendship anyway? 

Post # 11
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@funkybutton:  when they come into town, just say “hey do you still have my number? because you never call/text me only mr. funkybutton”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s just a weird situation.  I’d normally think that she was trying to hook up with your fiance, but nothing that she’s doing supports that.  Generally speaking, skanky women that are trying to get in bed with taken men don’t hang out with their fiances and request e-ring pics.  Is she socially awkward in other situations?  I know you’re all in the same industry, so I’d still be polite, but you might want to both “have plans” when she’s in town. 

Post # 13
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oddpants is what she should be called.

He should directly tell her he’s not comfortable with the texts.

With the way she’s acting though, I really would not want to be friends with her. I’d cut them loose and tell them they need to find a new place to stay when they’re in town.

 

Post # 14
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

At this point, why are you reacting at all???  I don’t have time for this kind of crap.  Delete these weirdos from your phones and lives and move on.  Just stop responding to calls, texts, etc.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why are you still bothering to keep up apperances? They obviously don’t really like you, and it seems like you and your Fiance don’t like them either, so why keep up the charade? It seems like you’re putting forth a lot of time and energy on people who simply aren’t worth it.

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