(Closed) Why is New York so DIFFICULT?!!!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

LOL! Welcome to New York. ๐Ÿ™‚

Us New Yrokers are too busy to notice other people and don’t care to make chit chat – mostly because people who smile at us and are friendly to us are usually crazy, so please don’t take it personally at all!

I’m sorry that you hate it here in NY but give it some more time – you might begin to like it.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@PinkMagnolia:  I think most people just think that because most tourists stick to midtown where there are tons of offices (I write this while wearing black pants and a grey shirt haha). If you explore different neighborhoods you’ll definitely see a lot more variety.

@jayebaby – you’re in midtwon east and temptingly close to bloomies

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This just makes me smile. Welcome to NY! I would probably be the first one giving you dirty looks if you were walking too slow, that’s just how things are here. Everyone is busy and in a rush, and my guess is you were strolling and slowing down traffic ๐Ÿ™‚

Pretty much every time I have been to another state I just want to tell everyone to hurry up because I always feel like I will be late to somewhere. You can take a girl out of NY but you can’t take NY out of the girl…

Having said all that, I am a very nice person so this is no reflection on my personality, it’s a NY thing.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Oh one more thing – there’s tons to do with kids in the city (so I’ve heard…I don’t have any myself). Not sure how old yours is but you might want to check out Time Out NY for kids to find some activities. I’ve heard good things about the Gazillion Bubble Show.

http://timeoutnewyorkkids.com/

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Meowkers:  Totally. In Denver, it’s considered incredibly rude NOT to make conversation with your cabbie! I usually ask them how long they’ve been doing it, about their family, how they like driving cabs…etc. It would feel strange to me to sit in silence.

OP, don’t take it personally. NYC has a lot to offer, but it’s not for everyone. I certainly respect what an awesome city it can be, but I would never live there. My love for smiling/talk to strangers/and being friendly is just too big. I’ve been to NYC many times (I used to live in NJ) and it just didn’t fit my personality. Try to enjoy what NYC does have to offer, but don’t worry that it’s not for you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

I’ve heard that you either really love NY or hate it and everyone outside of NY hates NY lol I don’t know why, I love it! New Yorkers are just always in a rush, like everyone else says I mean it’s the city. Everyone has places to be at certain times, nobody is goin to slow down or stop to have a conversation. Besides, have you SEEN the traffic?? It’s terrible! Everyone knows to not drive but everyone still does! It’s always too crowded. But NY has really great shopping spots and Central Park is amazing. You really wouldn’t get killed lol. There’s so much to see!! There are museums you can go to, I know some are free on certain days, and there’s always clubs !

Funny, when I go to CA, I always feel so bored by the slow paced lifestyle haha

Try enjoying the rest of your stay! Sealed

P.S. wear whatever you want =] I’ve also never talked to the cabbies before I think that’s so weird lol

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@jayebaby: Native New Yorker here. It’s cold today! Ha. I have to admit I am one of those New Yorkers that gives people the side eye when they are wearing an outfit that seems off with the season. Yesterday, I gave weird looks to people wearing big bubble coats because it was so nice. I also gave the side eye to the girls I saw wearing cutoff shorts and flip flops, come on now people!

New Yorkers are not just smiling happy people wanting to talk to everyone. The last lady to smile at me turned out to be some crazy chick who was off her meds and started screaming at the whole train. Sometimes I’m afraid of people who are just randomly smiling, haha.

I remember when my husband and I went upstate and were walking around, people were smiling and saying hi and we were SO CONFUSED. You shouldn’t take it personally. We can be really nice ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ve had conversations on the train with random strangers and with cabbies about where they’re from. I give people directions all the time. I’ve had great conversations with cabbies– it depends on the cabbie, some will talk, many will not.

And sometimes I hate it here, too (and I love this place!) Trying to convince my DH to move, but he loves it too much! (And he’s from Georgia)

Give it a chance. Explore, I’m sure some parts of the city will grow on you.

 

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bRooklynRocks:  Hahah, proof of how different some places are — I take cabs in Denver all the time and I’ve never seen one with a partition except the town car type ones that go to the airport ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry girl! Welcome to the east coast, I agree new yorks sucks but Im bias and from Boston lol. Over there its considered polite to mind your own business and not make eye contact with people when you are packed into such small spaces. I`m not joking but people are actually nice if you need help with something, it just different from the west coast.

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

When I first moved here, I smiled at people on the street. Then I realized, I’d have to be constantly smiling for miles on end because there are people EVERYWHERE. So I just gave in and stopped because my cheeks were getting sore.

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jayebaby:  This post made me miss home…NY.  I’ve recently moved to a small town in VA and can’t adjust to the culture shock.  People talk to you, hold doors for you, ask you personal questions and, I don’t intend to offend anyone, so please forgive me, are so slow. I think it’s just a matter of adjusting to a different way of life, but I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to adjust to life here.  And if I were to be perfectly honest, I don’t know if I want to. 

 

Jaye, hang in there.  It’s only a month, so take in everything NYC has to offer.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

New York has some really great stuff; the culture, the park, all the museums, some really cool sites and history.  It’s great that you don’t need a car.  But a few days there, and I knew no way in hell could I ever live there.  It’s an amazing city, but it’s aggressive.  Not to say people there aren’t nice, but they’re not friendly.  I’d love to go back, and I see why people fall it love with it, but I also see why some people hate it.

Then again, this is a Californian talking.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jayebaby:  I haven’t read the other posts, but based on your OP, I think you should be more open minded and just roll with the punches.  Every city can be different, good or bad but enjoy the good rather than dwell on the bad.

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