(Closed) Why is she acting like such a witch with a capital B? long!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My idea is to get off the computer and call her or see her in person! Seriously, some people are just awful about checking e-mails or FB (even if they do occasionally post updates). Maybe she does have some issue with your relationship, but with the things you’ve told us it really just doesn’t all add up, and it would be a shame to lose a friendship over someone not being up on their FB or e-mail enough. (and if she did get the message, some people are hurt to find out over FB – yes, it’s still polite to respond, but I’m just saying that even though you say your friendship is more over e-mail now, she still may have been hurt to get big news that way. I’d say it’s worth a phone call either way.)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

You emailed a close friend to tell her you were engaged?  I called all my closest friends! 

I think if you want to know what her deal is, you need to ask.  Has this really been going on for 5 years and neither of have discussed it???  Ask her! 

Post # 6
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8725 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Maybe she knows something about his past? Hence not wanting to set her BFF up with him in the first place.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know this isn’t what you’re asking, but if you haven’t really talked in five years (which does seem kinda contradictory with saying you’ve been friends forever and are close, which is how you opened your post) and she makes nothing but catty comments…why do you care about her response? Why are you going through your liks on FB looking for her name? 

But I agree with @futuremrsk18: that if you want to know you’re going to need to ask. Because, like I said in my last post, this doesn’t add up. Nothing you’ve told us about would explain her catty comments and drifting away from you.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@joya_aspera:  Who knows?  The only person would be her.  I think you should call her one last time with the intention of asking her what her deal is.  Just call her and say that you’re really sad that you drifted apart after 5 years because of your relationship with Fiance and her comments about it and that you always felt like she didn’t approve of your relatinoship and that you definitely should have brought it up before without letting it drift apart, but you want to fix things now.  Or email it to her if it makes you feel better with a note at the bottom asking her to call you.  Is your friendship worth your pride?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@joya_aspera:  well, it could be that she thinks he’s so great that she thinks he’s better than her own husband and doesn’t want you to have better.  it could be that she was trying to set him up because she liked him and wanted him taken and out of her life (I had a guy who had a crush on me but thought he wouldn’t be permitted by our job to date me try to set me up with another guy so I would be unavailable/out of sight, out of mind).  it could be that she thinks you could do better.  it could be that she thinks you’re different now because of him.  it could be that she didn’t want you in a relationship because she liked you better all to herself.  there are so many reasons that she could be pulling away and it could have been something you did/said that you don’t even know or didn’t even think twice about.  the point is, if you never flat out asked her why she’s acting this way and you care enough about the relationship to still be thinking about it 5 years down the road, maybe it’s time to say something, see if it gets fixed and if not, then to move on and know that at least you did everything you could have done. 

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