(Closed) Why is the status of my uterus so relavant here?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, when those verses were written, the whole point of marriage was for procreation. So the wedding ceremony was a time to bless the couple with fertitlity and lots of children. As you’re probably figuring out—the Catholic Church is full of tradition, so that is why those reading are popular at weddings, as well as suggested in The Right of Marriage

But the readings in The Right of Marriage are only suggestions. Technically, you can use any readings from the appropriate section for your Ceremony:

First Reading (Old Testament), Responsorial Psalm (Book of Psalms), Second Reading (New Testament), Gospel. 

Maybe speak with your priest and tell him that the readings that they suggest do not speak to you, but you found some others that do, and ask him if is possible to substitute them. Bring copies of the ones you’d rather use to show him you have done your research, and want a ceremony that both celebrates the traditions as well as you and your fiacne’s relationship. 

Good luck!

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Rachel631:  Just as a heads up, if this is startling to you, when you have to do the Marriage Prep Course, its going to be even more so.

Catholic Marriage is to be “Free, Total, Faithful and Fruitful” yes they do put emphasis on the last one a lot. They believe you should always be open to having children (no contraception etc.) 

Although you’ll take these with a grain of salt for your Fiance, just know that’s their teachings.

Also most of the lists they give you are guidlines or recommendations but not set in stone, ask the priest for alternatives. But also know you’re guests are not going to be sitting there wondering how awesome your uterus is, they will see it as a blessing on fertility which is acceptable in all cultures and religions 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Welcome to Catholic religion. I am Catholic and this religion is all about women are only good to make babies. Sorry but that’s how i see it.

Any form of birth control is sin (yes, pills are a sin). If you or your husband decide not to have babies, Catholic tribunal will without problems issue you a annulment from marriage. However if you are married to someone that cheated on you for years… those are not grounds for annulment so even though you are divorced by law you are still married in the catholic church and therefore in a great sin if you cohibit with anyone else.

Have you seen any women priests ? LOL… not in Catholic religion.

We are to shut up and have as many babies as possible and teach them all to follow in our footsteps.

It’s a whole bunch of bs

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rachel631:  I was practicing until my Fiance and I started living together and we started going through his whole annulment process as he was married before in the Catholic church. His ex cheated on him. Thats when i learned about all the bs that is just filled with man made rules.

I believe in god and do as i feel he would want me too but I dont’ practice any religion at this point becasue i am very dissapointed in it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Rachel631:  You must have had better instructors than I did. I was honestly about to leave at one point (They had a dr in for the Natural Family Planning night who marketed her clinic and gave us brochures and CDs for it I was mad she was using it as free advertisment) and Then for the next 3 weeks they harped on the same topic because “She hadn’t finished” and needed the other people to finish her lesson….

 

This one btw doesn’t sound too bad, maybe more along the lines of long life than kids?

Nuptual blessing: “may they be blessed with children,
and prove themselves virtuous parents,
who live to see their children’s children”

And this one?

“Give your blessings to (Name), your daughter,

so that she may be a good wife and mother,
caring for the home,
faithful in love for her husband,
generous and kind.

Give your blessings to (Name), your son, 
so that he may be a faithful husband
and a good father.”

 

I do see they’re kinda onslaughting the children, but weren’t you interviewed before you booked the church? We had to tell the church if there were any physical or emotion or mental issues that would prevent us from having children and raising them as Catholics. (but again maybe my church is more strict?) I kind of take it with salt for the most part and hope that my guests will too, I have only 2 Catholics in my wedding party other than my Fiance and I and some are openly Atheist… So I figure if they can stand there by us other guests can grin and bear it from a seat 😉

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

In all of the Catholic weddings I’ve been to, there is some mention of bearing children.  It always catches my attention, but I certainly don’t sit there and ponder the state of the bride’s uterus and their marital affairs.  Don’t worry about that.  It’s just one of those things in Catholic weddings.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Welcome to the Catholic Church! My whole Pre-Cana was a huge emphasis on how it is pointless to get married unless you are going to have children and raise them Catholic. Otherwise, God sees your marriage as null. I understand everyone has their own beliefs and understandings of religion but I think some stuff needs updating. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Rachel631:  I wish I had your preist! He sounds more relaxed than ours, he was even iffy about letting us do the unity candle to involve our mothers.

But overall you’ve given the impression that the priest is approchable and you should be able to ask him if there is a blessing to be good husbands and wives and mothers and fathers without the huge emphasis on children.

Although the two I mentioned above seem the most like that already and not too “kid-centered”

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rachel631:  It’s not a nice process and on top they want money for it regardles wether approving it or not. I used to go to church bi-weekly but ever since i learned that I am in great sin because i cohabit, am engaged to someone who is divorced but doesn’t have his marriage annuled through the Church ….. what’s the point.

We are getting married by a revrend who is from Anglican church… he himself is divorced and remarried and he told us all whats different between Catholic and Anglican relligion….. it’s basically an updated catholicism and instead to praying to the pope, they pray to the Queen.

Even to take a scenario where not too long ago a 9 year old female was raped by her stepfather and got pregnant… she was thrown out of catholic church for having an abortion as she now carried the deadliest sin. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Traditionally speaking, the primary purpose of marriage is the generation and nurturing of offspring; the second purpose is the mutual help of spouses, and the third is the remedy for concupiscence.

While there are individuals incapable of living of to matrimonial duties which would include likely parenthood, I would say our culture is far too judgmental of parents’ today.  I think we border on idealism and materialism.

 

 

 

 

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