Post # 1
So this is a really long story. Ill give you the jist of it. My aunt is a bleeping bitch. This summer we noticed my grampa was missing alot of money and started asking around (he bought her house and pays all her bills. And despite her working one day a week pays to have her home cleaned and the grass cut.) She went on a vacay to panama. We said geeze
how did you take yourself and daughtrs on a vacay with only an *hour a weeek pay check. Odd!She stoped speaking to us and after a few weeks of further investigating. «she sent a letter demanding we stop harrassing her and he told my dads boss he was harrassing her friends at work and showing up to work drunk. Not true.
Fast forward a few months. She sells her house. She sells my grampashouse. She moves 4 hours away. She has an estate sale with out telling us….BUT i found out about the sale and asked to take a few things to remember my grandparents. She said I can go over and take whatever i liked the night before the auction. I really wanted a bench in the hallway cause i played checkers with my grandma there. She took it. My dad really wanted a teapot that belonged to my great grandparents. She took it.. So we t ook a doll and a painting from the living room. The next day i get a phone call….i stole stuff from the estate and i must return it. So I returned it….and then i sat there and watched all my favorate things be sold.
Flash forward to today. Got a call….my grampa wont make it til lunch tonight. He wasnt supposed to make the night. I leave for my destination wedding tuesday. I have a feeling she will hold the funeral while were gone. just to spite us. I haaate herrr. Argggh
Post # 3
She sounds like a very nasty person no advice just my condolences on the whole situation ~hugs~.. they say that money and wills do bring out the worst in people
Post # 4
Money definitely brings out the worst in people. I am curious though how she is able to do all this? Shouldn’t the other siblings like your dad be involved in these decisions and the disbursement of your grandfather’s belongings?
I have to say though- the snide comments about how your aunt can afford a vacay working one hour a week was probably a bad idea. To people like your aunt, that’s all the ammo they need to hose you over.
I’m sorry about your grandfather. Hopefully your fear about the funeral date doesn’t happen.
Post # 5
This is probably a dumb question but your aunt probably has power of attorney over your Grandpa? This isn’t what really happened to our family, but my grandpa started getting Alzheimers and had to be put in a home. He made my uncle power of attorney, not really being of sound mind when he did it and uncle took almost everything and never came to visit grandpa when he was ill. Once he got what he wanted he signed over POA to my mom and aunt so they could handle everything like placing grandpa. Basically all the responsible adult stuff.
It sucks that she got everything. Honestly, I agree with PP. It was a bad idea to say what your family said. It’s a hard thing to deal with if she was stealing money, but now she probably will just spite you guys. I hope she doesn’t sink that low though, and perhaps there is something you can do.
Good luck, and I am very sorry for your grandfather.
Post # 6
I’ve very sorry about your Grandpa. And I’m sorry your aunt is acting like this. It’s a shame, but money can do terrible things to people. I hate when people can’t let others have items for sentimental purposes. I’m sure that teapot and that bench woudn’t have brought her a ton of money at auction, but would have meant the world to you and your dad.
Post # 7
we never confronted her about the vacation til after we discovered she has been using my grandmas credit card. she died 11 years ago. we found 300 dollar shoes. Hotel rooms. Restaurant tabs. 500 at aritzia. Etc…. We cancelled the card and thats when she started selling stuff.
Also my grandfather passed away yesterday. when i called 2 hours ago to see how he was feeling the told me he went into a coma and passed quickly afterwards. i told them i was grand daughter and the nurse said my aunt told them we dont speak with him. and we were not interested in if he dies.
I felt terrible involving the nurse. she felt so bad being the one to break the news.
Post # 8
oh this is horrible. Money makes people crazy. Just pray she takes the money and goes far far far away from you and the still sane members of your family. Hopefull she wont make you miss saying goodbye but all I can say is prepare for the worst. Hold your prandpa in your heart and know that Karma is a big fat biotch!
Post # 9
@nibbler: so sorry about losing your grandpa xx