(Closed) Why is this so hard? *big fat vent

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s hard, really hard. But don’t worry things will work out, you can even look around and find other vendors you like.

I know of a great coordinator/planner you can use, her name is tiffany, here’s her website  http://www.pictureperfectevent.webs.com.

Maybe she can help you find a new vision which i sure will be just as lovely if not more than the last!!

Post # 5
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Considering how much stress your coordinator is causing you and the fact that she isn’t helping, why not swallow the deposit and find somebody else? Or coordinate yourself as you said you were already really doing all of the coordination! I don’t think working with your coordinator will ever be a good thing and it sounds like things can only get worse as you get closer to the wedding. Do you even trust her to be a good DOC after you’ve planned the whole wedding? 

Post # 6
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If you can’t get the coordinator to do what you want, I’d suck it up and lose the deposit.  That’s what we did with our photographer when that didn’t work out.  It really sucked to lose the money, but it was worth it in the long run.  Good luck!

Post # 7
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I  think the question would be where exactly is your destination wedding?  I think it would be tremendously helpful if you posted here, and on other wedding sites to see if you could find other brides who were married at that location.  I have absolutely no idea if your coordinator is correct and there are limited options for wedding vendors.  But if I were in your shoes it would stress me out less if I knew that for a fact and accepted it as a consequence of my dream wedding in a beautiful location.   Some brides may have experiences with better vendors in that site.  Good luck!

Post # 9
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry about everything you’re going through. It’s so funny -how great we all think that this wedding planning stuff is going to be. I’ve found in my 13 months of planning that it has been a hunormous freakin’ nightmare. Ugh. Ninety days until I marry the love of my life -then this wedding drama is ova!

My coordinator was royally pissing me off for awhile too. I let her know how upset I was, how disappointing she was making my experience and how she had pushed me to the point of not wanting to work with her anymore. She straightened up REALLY quickly for fear of my complaints rising any higher. Now, I’m getting my butt kissed (a much better alternative than what I was experiencing before).

I always speak up. Sometimes it’s a bit much but I think that its better than bottling things up. NO ONE wants a bad review. With all of these online resources, I think most vendors understand (or should) that you don’t want “bad press” from one bride -it doesn’t stay with one bride.

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