(Closed) Why is this so hard for me.

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2015

 

Glockbaby93:  

Like everyone has said, you don’t need a treadmill to lose weight! Working out at home can be just as effective. I found that it helps when you set a goal for yourself. I was in a rut for a while so I decided I needed some motivation. I signed up for a running race and found a training program online. it gave me the motivation I needed. I lost weight and felt good about myself. Maybe you can find a 5k race in your area and do a “couch to 5k” training program. It might seem impossible, but it’s not! You can do it!

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

Completely agree with all the PPs! I lost 60 lbs in about a year and have kept it off for the past year. I started really slowly – just walking and cutting out fast food & soda from my diet! I do a lot of walking with Fiance, too – there are a ton of local places to go hiking, or we can just walk around places like my neighborhood, his neighborhood, downtown, or any of the local parks.

You definitely don’t need a gym membership to exercise – look up body weight exercises and you’ll find a ton of good ones to tone up your muscles! I like the Tribe Sports work outs – here’s the one I used to slim down my legs: http://tribesports.com/challenges/sexy-leg-workout-challenge. The first dozen times I wasn’t able to do all the exercises in this workout, so I only did as much as I could. Now, I can do the entire set, and I do them regularly. I usually do these short 10 to 15 minutes exercises while I’m watching tv. Couple those body weight exercises with some longer cardio workouts to melt the fat away. I also bought a pedometer to help monitor my daily calorie burn and I use an app to keep track of my calorie intake. Free apps and membership website like My Fitness Pal also have communities that will help you keep motivated.

The best motivation for myself was actually just watching my body slim down, which took a couple months into eating healthier and exercising to see. I wouldn’t recommend weighing yourself every day, but maybe once a week and take measurement (chest, waist, bicep & thigh) maybe once a month or so. It’s rewarded seeing the numbers go down.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

I agree with everyone else–you don’t need equipment to lose weight. Try the free workout plans from Blogilates, Tone It Up, and Fitness Blender. Also, Pop Sugar Fitness makes these awesome 10 min workouts on their youtube channel that you can mix and match (most of them don’t require equipment). 

However, losing weight is 80% diet and 20% fitness. You won’t see results until you change the way you eat. I find that sticking to whole, unprocessed foods is the easiest way to keep me on track and when I feel my best. Good luck!!

 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I personally do NOT recommend My Fitness Pal. I tried signing up for it not too long ago and within just a couple days I could already feel myself obsessing and freaking out over the numbers and rapidly slipping into my old ED ways. If you have ANY predispositions to eating disorder behaviors, then I say skip it. Besides, all the app primarily does is count your calories, so you could be eating 1200 calories of pure junk but you’ll still feel like you’re doing a good job.

Instead, I recommend reading about portion control and grasping a healthy, realistic idea of what a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner looks like and what type of filling snacks you actually like can work for you. When I was in therapy we focused a lot on making our meals something like 1/3 protein and 1/3 grains or something similar. I realize our diets were specifically tailored for helping us, but having an actual number in general terms like that really helped me focus, in a healthy way, on ratios, portions and healthy foods without obsessing about calories.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by  TwinkleBoss.
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Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

And Smaller Plates!!!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

And the Harvard version.

 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

I’m a big advocate for setting small realistic goals for yourself focus on positive changes instead of all the things you dislike about yourself. It always helps me to make a to-do list for the day and make sure you write every little thing on there that isn’t a habit yet. Plan every meal and snack and focus on making a healthier choice than you are used to eating. Make your list as non-negotiable as possible. You (hopefully) don’t need reminders to brush your teeth or get dressed every day, so until exercising and eating well because just as automatic as basic hygiene and grooming. It will get easier, but having a negative attitude and defeatist position will make things much harder for yourself. Good luck, I’m rooting for you!

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

You don’t necessarily HAVE to excercise to lose weight. It is upwards of 80% what you put in your mouth. Excercise has lots of health benefits, but for losing weight it is just an adjunct to diet. What it does do, is help you feel better from the inside out. It is a great stress reliever and self esteem booster.

That being said, I can completely identify with you. I am 5’7″ and at my heaviest weighed 275lb. I felt hopeless, desperate, and gross. I was starting to develop some health issues. I made the decision to have gastric sleeve surgery of november 2013. I have insurance and was lucky they covered it. Honestly it was the best decision I ever made for myself. I just could not get my eating under control on my own. I needed outside help. I know weight loss surgery is not for everyone, but it is a wonderful tool for portion control. I lost about 50 lbs before I even started to exercise. I have been for about 10 months, and am down to 180 lbs.

Anyway, I don’t tell you this to persuede you to have surgery, or not; just that it is what worked for me after years of feeling like a big fat defeated failure. Can you lose the weight and get healthy on your own? yes! Is it much harder? hells yes.

 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

TwinkleBoss:  I totally get that about MFP, I find myself having to keep myself in check. Once I start obsessing about the numbers my brain wants to eat something unhealthy that is less calories than something healthy. It’s a battle for some people!

But really MFP does a lot more now, it tracks your macros, your vitamins and you can adjust your macro goals. For example if you’re going lower carb and higher protein or fat you can change your daily percentage goal for those.

It’s a really neat tool for being free!

Post # 26
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Busy bee

 

TwinkleBoss: I know exactly what you mean…I started MFP and, while it really has helped me keep portions in check, last night, I got to the end of the day and had 400 calories “left” so right before bed I was like, “leftover Thanksgiving pie? Okay!” While it was delicious, I would have been a lot better off with some fruit.

Glockbaby93:  Do you have a Planet Fitness anywhere near you? I recently quit Crossfit (awesome, but so expensive!) and joined a PF and I actually really like it. It’s $10/month ($20 if you want unlimited hydromassages, which are awesome!) plus a $30/year membership fee. I have a hard time keeping up with an at-home workout program, but the fact that I’ve already paid for a gym membership is motivation enough to get my butt to the gym every day after work.

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Glockbaby93: I’m sorry you feel this way but I think you already know that not having a gym membership or a treadmill is just a convenient excuse to not work out. There are plenty of work outs you can do without either of those, youtube some videos or go for a walk/run outside. Also, you can change your diet to help with the weight loss, no fancy equipment needed to do that.

If you really want to lose that weight, stop making excuses. There are plenty of ways to do this without spending a bunch of money.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Glockbaby93:  I feel ya! It sucks feeling like you’re stuck. when I was unemployed and taking care of my daughter I spent around $10 for the Jillian Michels 30 Day Shred dvd on Amazon and starting using a calorie tracker on my phone and lost 30 lbs in about 2 months. I started around 175 or so I think. There are definitely things you can do even though your income is limited. Good luck!

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I really recommend getting an at-home step machine like this: 

http://www.amazon.com/Sunny-Health-Fitness-Twister-Stepper/dp/B0016BUR7I/

It’s the easiest thing in the world to hop on it in front of your computer or TV and watch a couple or few episodes of something on Netflix. Get a good pace going and you’ll burn those calories!

Mindful eating is also very important. Try not to deny yourself, but eat sensible portions!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Alright, so my observation is that you’re not really asking for help as in “how to” lose weight; you’re expressing frustration and disappointment in yourself. So, I would first focus on that problem–the problem with your head–before I distract myself with calorie counting and exercise videos. Or, do both, but really, the first thing is way, way more important than the second, and here’s why:

Your body is what it is. And it will change all through your life–if you have children, it will change. It will change as you age. It may change because of things that happen in your life and to your health. And the truth is you have to make peace with yourself in order to not only handle these changes in a productive, healthy way, but also so that you feel CAPABLE of handling them and not overwhelmed.

You know as well as any of us that weight is just weight. A little stomach, a little cellulite, it’s not such a big deal. You can change it. It takes discipline and persistence to change it, but you can. However, considering that any meaningful change will be a slow road, it’d be best if you learned how to enjoy and appreciate yourself through the journey.

And finally, be kind to yourself. It’s really hard to be unemployed. It’s hard to handle upheaval in your life. You’re fixating on your body because those things are hard. Don’t blame yourself; don’t treat yourself poorly. Help yourself. Be encouraging. Use this time to try and do things that you really like to do so you’re not just job-searching all the time. Take walks. Volunteer. Design websites, take photographs. Do things that make YOU–the person–not the body, happy. It goes inside out, not outside in. So treat yourself well, stand up and be proud of what you’ve got. I know it’s something worth being proud of.

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