(Closed) Why is weddingbee so positive?

posted 9 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am actually really excited about these pictures and I have a male photographer!

He obviously is NOT going to be there the whole time he is going to come at the end of the getting ready stage and I really want to have the memory through pictures of my mom doing up my dress, my girls helping me with my shoes and garter and finishing up any make-up and final touches. And after we are ready he is going to take pictures of my and my girls, my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law around my house (thats where I am getting ready) and I think that those pictures are going to be really special!

My photographer likes taking them because he says that the feel of the girls getting ready and the feel of the guys hanging out before the ceremony by themselves is so different and he loves capturing that on film!

Post # 4
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If you don’t want to have those shots, there is no reason you have to! All of the photographers I’m talking to have at least one woman as part of their team. I wouldn’t have an issue with a man taking the pictures though. It’s not like I would be naked. Most of the time I would be more covered up then most people are on the beach. 🙂 He also doesn’t have to shoot you getting into your dress, etc.


Post # 5
340 posts
Helper bee

It’s just another way to capture the memories you (hopefully haha) want to remember for the rest of your life.

P.S. I think it’s more “getting ready” in the sense of final touches like lacing up your dress, shoes, etc. and not getting ready like putting on your underwear and deodorant and stuff lol.

Post # 6
179 posts
Blushing bee

There is no way in heck any one is taking pics of me getting dressed.

We’re not even having a real photographer. Just friends w/ good digital cameras. We can’t afford a real photographer.


Post # 7
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Most photographers have female assistants to take those pictures. I know mine does, and if you don’t want everything captured on camera let the photog know!

Post # 8
108 posts
Blushing bee

That a very good question– but I think it is a matter of personal preference.  I know for some, those photographs signify a gathering of women important to the bride, lovingly preparing for such a significant event.  For me, I am afraid to leave a lot of moments to memory bc when I get emotional or overwhelmed, I tend to forget what’s going on around me.  Yet I think one of the most crucial factors are to what extent you are comfortable with your photographer.  I think it is perfectly ok to let them know which moments are off limits (i.e., in your underwear), or to let them know when you need some space. 

On the upside, not arranging for coverage during this time saves money. 🙂  If you prefer to skip, that’s great too.  It means extra money to spend on something more special to you. 🙂

Post # 9
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You don’t need to do them if you’re uncomfortable with it or uninterested!  We probably won’t be, because it’s just not important to me to have everything in pictures and we can’t afford a photographer to be there for that long.  Everybody’s different.  There’s no one correct way to handle photography for your wedding.

Post # 10
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I had a male photographer as well, and so obviously I didn’t have him take photos of things like me getting into my dress in just my underthings!  But he did get some really neat shots of my bridesmaids putting on makeup, choosing earrings, and helping me get my necklace on — all things we were comfortable doing in front of a male photographer.  I love these shots because they reflect my friendship with my bridesmaids so beautifully — they were all so supportive of me that weekend, and the photos remind me of how lucky I am to have such great pals.

That said, just because the “getting ready” photos are popular right now doesn’t mean you have to do them!  It sounds like you’re really uncomfortable with the idea, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to do something you hate just because it’s “standard” or “trendy.”  If it’s not your thing, just skip ’em and tell the photographer to show up after you’re already dressed and ready to go.

Post # 11
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so excited for the getting ready picture. I love “getting ready” to go out and this will be one of my biggest outings ever.  I actually hope the photographer will get a few pics of me in my wedding undies and heels -for FH’ s eyes only! haha!

Post # 12
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a male photographer, and he simply said that he was stepping out of the room when it came time to put the dress on, and to call him in as soon as I was comfortable. I think I just stepped into the dress and pulled it up to cover my panties, then had my sister (who was helping me dress) call him in. We finished putting on the gown from there. I had a bustier on, so it really wasn’t a big deal, and in fact, it was so surreal getting into my gown, I could have cared less about who was in the room, or how  undresses I was. But if you’re uncomfortable, just let him know.

Post # 13
2765 posts
Sugar bee

Where did you post your comment?  I just checked our moderation log and our spam software, and your message doesn’t look like it was flagged for moderation… so I’m not sure where it didn’t get posted.

Let me know and we can look into it!

Post # 14
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I guess I feel like I put so much energy into the details of what I was going to wear and how I was going to look that it just made sense to me to capture each detail.

Plus, I so intensely remember the anxiety/excitement/thrill of those moments where there was still some quiet time before the craziness of the wedding.  It was a beautiful quiet, but energy filled moment and I’m glad to have captured it…

Still, I am a big fan of everyone’s day being uniquely their own… so if that’s not what floats your boat, then you should definitely not do it!

And I think that’s what makes Weddingbee such a positive place.  There is acknowledgement that every bride is different and has different style and different needs.  It seems to me that having Bee bloggers allows us to celebrate those differences in a way that celebrates a variety of different viewpoints, and that tone carries over to all parts of the site.

Good luck planning!

Post # 15
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, i wasn’t exactly naked for our getting ready pictures. They take pics of you getting your hair done, your mom tying your dress on, etc. I had a woman in my room and my guy had a man in his room, but there’s nothing wrong with kicking the male photog out until the girls have their dresses on. My female photog snapped an awesome pic of me in my strapless bra and spanx though, lol. It’s funny and I’m not that modest, anyways. 

It was more the hanging out with the girl time.

Post # 16
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

The only “getting ready” shots my photographers took were of my dress getting buttoned up, and my mom putting on my veil. I put on my pantyhose and deodorant in privacy!

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