- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I actually selected the Amora Gem over a moissy, over my temporary Asha, and over diamonds. There were multiple reasons, but I will start with why I got the Asha in the first place. I was still researching everything with diamonds, but we were buying a home, planning a wedding, and starting a business. The house fell through since the builder was not honest and we ended up eloping and cancelling the big wedding six months later. Once the business was stable at that time I had spent so much time researching the Amora Gem I was not going to purchase a diamond until after I had seen an AG for myself in person.
Once I got a chance to order an Amora Gem Ultra H&A cushion in April 14′ I jumped on it. We had contacted our favorite jeweler before it arrived to check on him ordering a cushion diamond in my ideal stats of color G and clarity of SI1 with ideal or excellent cut. When we first looked into getting an engagement ring that type of stone certified was upwards of 10K. Now I can find them must lover on blue nile and my jeweler stated he could get one that would cost us just around or under 5K. Do we have that type of money in the bank? Yes, would I spend it all at once for something like that? No, but I would be willing to make large payments over time to pay it off. Our jeweler is very familiar with us, so he agreed if we did not like this “mystery gem” that we could use layaway with no extra charge and pay $500 to $1000 a month to pay it off. So I knew in 5 to 10 months I could have a diamond if I wanted. My Asha still looked great with no signs of wear after having it for nearly two years. When we received the AG my husband no longer wanted me to order the diamonds since the color was so great and the sparkle equal to any diamond he ever saw. I know they say the sparkle is more, but I do not see that in the cushion cut.
Did I want the look of a diamond, yes, but did I care if I had a diamond or not, no. I wanted a forever stone with the same look. Did we save money, yes, but I would spend more to get what I want. Moissy in larger sizes show too much color and it changes color a lot which I do not care for in an engagement ring. I didn’t want a color gem besides a black diamond, but DH didn’t care for them. If I lose or damage my Amora Gem tomorrow at this time they do not have a replacement available. I would use my asha in my engagement ring immediately and then order a diamond.
Do I enjoy the fact that no one had to die for me to have a sparkly gem, of course. But the rest of my wedding set has diamonds and I own other diamond jewelery. But I try what I do to be a little bit of a better person. I disagree with what others say about “you can’t wear something that looks like a diamond because you’re encouraging others”. I have always been against fur and would NEVER wear a real piece of fur. However, I do own faux fur. I have educated others on, what it is (I have met a lot of activitist) and other fur lovers I have helped to convert. However that is not my duty.
I want to enjoy what I like without hurting others. I am Christian, but I do not feel it is my duty or goal to convert others. If someone is interested I will give them the information and direct them to a wonderful church, but I do enough to help the world when I save lives each and every day when I go to work.
I am not a “name brand whore” so I don’t care if I have a certain label or not. But if I like a designer item that’s leather and I can’t find one that is not I will get the designer item. I own leather and pleather boots as well as sneakers, purses, jackets, and belts. No one can tell the difference and I do not feel the need to correct someone if they compliment me.
To wrap this up yes I strive to use products that do not hurt the environment or others, but I will not avoid having items that I desire to own. Call me selfish, I am an American and that’s kind of our cultrure. But I do try to go out of my way to find an alternative healthy item. I own a wedding set made with recyceled gold and the diamonds are supposedly ethically obtained, but who really knows. I own faux fur and leather as stated above. I try to buy organic and local. I go to church when I can. I purchase from small businesses when given the opportunity.
It is not my job to police the world with my personal fashion choices.