Post # 1
Aw man why do our SO’s have to tease us so much?? Yesterday we were talking about Christmas and I was like you already know what I want. He was like, yeah I know everything babe. He told me not to worry so much about it. I asked him if it would at least happen this year because I don’t want to still not be engaged when 2012 starts. he looked at me and said “Baby, I’m not going to tell you when i’ts going to happen or what time. Just trust me and quit worrying so much. It will happen.” Dang it, I would at least be fine knowing it wasn’t happening until next year if he would just tell me that you know? I don’t need to know what day it happens, just whether it will be this year or not so I won’t get my hopes up. Ugh, why must they play these games with us??
Post # 3
wow… I could have written that post! Sounds exactly like conversations my SO and I have. I wish I could just deal with it and wait 🙁 Alas… I would feel better with a timeline as well! I get that is WILL happen… eventually. I just kinda want to know how long to expect to wait for… you know? Like, I could maybe be a little less crazy knowing I had to wait 6 months or 2 weeks … instead of just SOMEDAY. Sigh.
Post # 4
I honestly don’t think he is playing games with you, in fact he is being totally open with you about it in that you won’t know when it will happen, as it’s meant to be his surprise to you.
I think all you can do is not focus too much on dates, it would be nice at Christmas, but it will drive you crazy and it sounds like he has something planned already 🙂
Post # 5
Lol. Sounds like my SO. He was really sweet earlier this year when he said, “I gave you this [promise/I love you] ring and promised that we will get engaged and married in the future. I’m asking you to trust me. It will happen.”
Less than a month later he brought up the engagement/marriage timeline. I said to him, “I told you that I’m trusting you to propose at the right time. I won’t wait forever, but I trust you.”
I know it’s not going to happen for a while, but I seriously think that this makes them feel special. I also think that taunting us a little makes us show them just how badly we want things to happen, and this makes them feel more manly. 🙂
Post # 6
You are not alone….My SO does the same thing!! He’s the one that brings up the talk about getting married and picking out rings ( I learned the hard way not to bring it up anymore and now he’s the one doing it all the time..lol) In September he said “It will happen sooner than you think” Of course, i thought it would happen before the end of the year, but we just returned from a vaca where i thought for sure it would happen.
One night while we were relaxing we got on the topic of when it would happen and i promised i wouldn’t need to ask anymore if he would just give me a timeline…haha…his response… “several months, but that could be two months or longer or even sooner” uggghhh…lol So, I asked at least tell me what year? He said 2012. Well, i still have no idea, but I’m not giving him the satisfaction of messing with me anymore so I am dropping it. I have decided it wont happen until after he gets his tax return back next year. I figure that keeps me from getting my hopes up and crushed and i will be totally surprised if it happens before then…lol
What i have figured out is that he is just messing with me because surprising me is such a big deal to him and he doesnt want me to have a clue when it will happen. Good luck!! 🙂