(Closed) Why not propose to him?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you propose to him?

    Definitely not!

    Maybe, maybe not.

    Sure, why not?

  • Post # 137
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    Sugar bee

    lahdie dahdie dah…I proposed to him!! <3 Mr.TKE

    Post # 138
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I proposed to my fiance. I knew he wouldn’t be offended. We had discussed marriage occasionally before, and it’s literally the reason I moved in with him. I moved in with him nearly 5 years ago, and I just got tired of waiting. ๐Ÿ™‚ I gave him a strawberry ring pop!

    The way I see it, there’s no law stopping me, and other than me moving in, he wasn’t moving very quickly on the issue. I’m not an extremely traditional person to begin with, though, so maybe I just have a lighter view of it.

    Oh, and as far as Colorado is concerned, we’re common-law anyways. If we had a serious blow out breakup, we’d need to get a divorce lawyer. We’ve known each other more than a decade, lived in multiple homes together, so not a whole heck of a lot will really change when we get officially married.

    Post # 139
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    Bumble bee

    This is a really interesting discussion!  As a matter of fact, I had just posted today to a bee that was really upset because she was waiting to just do it herself, lol!

    I wear anything with ruffles and lace, my closet is mostly lavender, I have long girly hair and LOVE shoes – so I, the last time I checked, am a woman.  However, I have never dreamed of a proposal or chosen my wedding colors when I was 6 or something.  I, like some other posters, was too busy planning how I was going to cure disease or rule the world ๐Ÿ™‚  I have actually posted quite a few times that I don’t consider marriage to be a goal or an achievement or something to attain.  I’ve never, ever been the type to pine away for that kind of thing. 

    If a man that was going to ask me to marry him asked my dad for permission then I’d say no, probably, since he sure wouldn’t know me that well! lol – I’m not my fathers property to give away nor is he in a position to make decisions on who I spend my life with.  Don’t get me wrong – My Dad is the greatest (I still call him Daddy) and we’re super duper close but that just isn’t my style.  As well, if a guy got down and did some Princely grand proposal I would probably laugh because I’m just not into that kind of thing. 

    When I got married years ago (divorced now) my ex was secretly taping it (that was cute) but had dim lights, we were on vacay, handed me a card that said a ton of sweet stuff and the last part had an arrow and the word ‘over’ on it and the back of the card said ‘will you marry me?’ and when I looked up he was on one knee with the little box open with the ring in it.  I right away laughed, said ‘get up!’, thanked him and began an actual discussion about what we both wanted.  Up to this point we had never even discussed marriage except for the fact that I never wanted to get married or have kids, lol, so you can imagine how the romance was going to take a backseat here since we had so much to really talk about so that we were on the same page.  It was just not my style and although I’m glad he had his moment (it really was more for him than me but that’s neither here nor there) I would have preferred that he even bothered to find out if I wanted to marry him in the first place.  I did say yes, though, but I shouldn’t have looking back.

    I just prefer a partnership to start that way – a mutual discussion about what we want – skip the rose petals and candles for me! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 140
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2005

    I proposed to my fiance shortly after he asked me to marry him. I secretly went out and purchased him a ring. When we were sitting on the couch watching tv one evening I hid the ring in my pocket, pulled out my old class ring and started playing around with it. He’s got really big hands so I made a joke about wanting him to wear my class ring and was pretending to slip the class ring onto his finger but instead placed the ring I bought for him on his finger. He was shocked and rather excited. I say if you’ve got the guts then get the glory and don’t be afraid to propose to him (unless he is traditional and you might ruin it for him).

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