(Closed) Why not propose to him?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you propose to him?

    Definitely not!

    Maybe, maybe not.

    Sure, why not?

  • Post # 62
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    and yes, I realize we’re not really talking about proposals anymore, but if you’re going to generalize about what women can and can’t do, then it seems like we’ve already gone there.

    Post # 63
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

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    @Mr. Coffee: Personally, I’m sick and tired of the whole “I can do everything that a man can” attitude. Not because I disagree, but because most (key word – most) make that statement usually in reference to something that in fact… she wants to prove can be done better. Which to me… still sounds like a battle.

    Really?  Really?  Your stance on this issue bothers me on so many levels.

    Post # 64
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    @snowflake119: 

    *Excuse me miss, do you know what I pulled you over for*?

    *let me guess… because I’m a woman… right, right, RIGHT*?

    Ok look! I’m going to try and end this now: 

    It’s true; there are many things you ladies can do sooooo much better than us. Frankly, there are some things that only woman can do. Men will NEVER know, feel, or truly understand the responsibility of key things woman have to do in life.

    It’s true; many times the male species as a whole, protrays and reflects that we are more deserving. That in life, there are many tasks and duties that only men should take on… that it’s not meant for a woman. AND THAT’S JUST WRONG!!!

    It’s true; women are not fairly treated in sooo many avenues of life. I’m sorry for that, hope it continues to move in the right direction… and that things get better each passing day.

    I’m sooooo very sorry if my past comments in this tread offended you or anybody else. I hope you accept this and we can move on.

    Saying all the above, a man should ask a woman if she will marry him.

    Seacrest out

     

    Post # 65
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I LOVE EVERYBODY

    Post # 66
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    ::hugs::

    Post # 67
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Wow, that’s such a cute picture of a cat that you just posted! I’ll definitely stop making things into a battle now :-O   Sorry, we ladies sure do get riled up about these lady things sometimes! 😉

    Post # 68
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’m engaged, but I would never have considered proposing to my boyfriend. I knew all along that he wanted to marry me–we had frank conversations about it. Proposing to him would have taken away his opportunity to surprise me and ask me, something that I knew he really wanted to do. Plus, I really wanted the moment of our engagement to be on his terms–when he knew that he was totally ready to make this committment and move forward with planning our wedding.

    Post # 69
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i totally would have proposed to my husband–i have no traditional hang-ups at all and think it would have been kick assedly awesome. but it wasn’t right for our situation. we had talked about marriage and timelines for future plans before and i knew i was “ready” before him. so me asking would have been putting pressure on him. nothing to do with gender really at all–just where we were as individuals.

    Post # 70
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    Busy bee

    Uh- because I blurted out that I loved him first. Frankly…. I think it’s his turn to step out on the ledge for us.

    Post # 71
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    So you feel sad for women that we’re not fairly treated in sooooo many avenues of life, but you think we’re still not allowed to propose? What else should women not do (or if they try to do it it’s just so they can pick a battle, or whatever it was that you said)?

    (And what, exactly, besides biological functioning like having babies and breastfeeding, are the things that “only a woman can do”? What are the things that women can do soooooooo much better than men? Singing soprano?)

    Post # 72
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club

    I just wanted to put it out there that I strongly disagree with the notion that a man must be the one to propose.  If that’s what works best for a couple that’s great, but I definitely don’t think this is something that can only be done by a man.

    Post # 73
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The OP asked for our opinions, Mr. Coffee gave his.  Let’s let him have his opinion and we can all have our own, we can’t all agree.

    ETA:  I don’t think either way is any more right than the other.  I don’t care who proposes to who.  It all depends on each couple’s individual relationship.  It might be right for you to propose to your boyfriend, it might not be.  For my relationship it is not right, and Mr. Coffee has expressed his opinion that it is not right for his either.

    Post # 74
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    Bumble bee

    @sloth:  No I wouldn’t.  I did a fake proposal one time after I just moved in with him and he was coming back from out of town.  I had candles all around and had rose petals that spelled will you marry me.  He looked at the room and then back at me.  He was speechless for about a minute.  He said yes if your serious you know I want to spend the rest of my life with you.  I told him it was all a joke I never thought he would actually say yes.  This was based on a previous conversation where he said it’s his job to propose.  I presented him with a ring pop and everything lol.  Although he did say it wasn’t official because he has to propose to me.  I know the proposal is something that his looking forward to doing and I’m traditional in that sense.  I can’t wait for him to propose and see how nervous or strange he maybe acting before he does it.  His normally very cool and collected so it should be interesting to say the least.

    Post # 75
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @MissBoPeep: I agree 100%, I wish there was a like button for this!!!!

    Post # 76
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    EmbarassedSorry guys!!!! I think @ginandtonic and I are just PMS’ing, you know how that goes, amirite ginandtonic? I don’t even know what I’m saying sometimes! Smile Kiss 

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