Post # 1
As I read some of your “waiting” stories, a thought crossed my mind. Why are you waiting for HIM to propose to YOU? Why not turn the tables, so to speak, and propose to him?
You know… buy HIM a ring… get down on one knee… and propose? I know that’s not very traditional, but…. I personally don’t see anything wrong with that!
Sometimes I think we as women put so much pressure on the guy to come up with the perfect ring, the perfect time, the perfect place, the perfect words… why not do all those things yourself?
Just a thought. 🙂 Comments welcome.
Post # 3
Instead of turning the tables, just leave him alone about it. When I finally stopped harassing my bf about “putting a ring on it” he proposed! Turns out he had the ring but didn’t want to give it to me right after I was inquiring about when we’re going to get engaged because he wanted to be able to setup the perfect moment, not just give me what I was “asking for” so to say.
Post # 4
I was considering it but I just stopped talking about it and then it happened later.
Post # 5
I don’t know, for a lot of men that can be somewhat emasculating. I know my BF is very much looking forward to proposing. He’s dreamt of finding the right woman (yours truly), buying a beautiful ring (hopefully soon) and getting down on one knee to propose. For a lot of women, we dream of our wedding. Our wedding is our special day where we get to be a princess. For a lot of men, they dream of proposing to their future wives. It’s their chance to be the prince to our princess.
I wouldn’t dream of taking that away from my BF. Also, and this is purely insecurity on my part, I don’t want to propose because I want HIM to do it. I want him to be so in love with me and want to marry me so badly he’ll get down on one knee and ask. If I were to propose to him, I’d always feel a little cheated and always, far far back in the corner of my mind, wonder if he would’ve ever proposed had I given him the chance.
Post # 6
I threatened my BF that if he doesn’t propose soon i’ll do it myself. He made me promise not to because he said he has always looked forward to proposing and would feel robbed of the opportunity. I would never want to take that away from him.
Post # 7
Just to clarify – I’m not saying that all the waiting bees should go out right now and buy a men’s ring! I’m thinking about it from the gender equality standpoint.
Or maybe the uber-feminist in me decided to let herself out today. 🙂
ETA: I am also one of those girls who insisted that he wear a ring while we were engaged, too. I felt like if I had to wear physical evidence of our commitment, than so should he!
Post # 8
“Instead of turning the tables, just leave him alone about it.”
That’s what I’m doing.
Especially after reading this:
Post # 9
I proposed and he was THRILLED!!!! Took a lot of the stress off him.
Post # 10
I had the thought of proposing to my FI and he was not a fan of it. He wanted the tradition and I guess in a sense, so did I. I’m glad I waited but it would be a cool thing to start seeing it become more common and more socially acceptable for a woman to propose to a man.
Post # 11
I always think this when I see all the waiting posts, especially when they are extra hard on their boyfriends!
Post # 12
I joke about it with him on occasion, but I would never really do it, ring and all. It wouldn’t be fitting for us. BUT, omg how much did you guys LOVE this bee’s proposal story?! If you haven’t read it, you should check it out. She is just so awesome!
Post # 13
Sometimes I threaten him with it haha, I mention that if he doesn’t do it soon I’ll propose to him. But I know that he thinks about the perfect proposal just like I do and he’s been planning it for a while. I wouldn’t want to take his moment from him, because even though he doesn’t talk about it all the time like I do, it still means a lot to him to have the opportunity to ask me to be his wife (:
Post # 14
@Miss Snowflake:he would get mad. he’s very sentimental about “doing it right” i told him i don’t care how he does it, just show me you want to marry me by asking!!!
Post # 15
The only reason why I wouldn’t is because down the road I think I’d wonder if he ever would have proposed without me asking, you know? He knows I want to get married and he knows how I feel about marriage. I know that, for me, I wouldn’t want to wonder if he just said yes to shut me up, you know? Plus, dang, can he get me a ring? lol…
Post # 16
He wouldn’t have taken it seriously if I had. Lol. But I def thought about it while I was “waiting.”