(Closed) why oh why don’t people understand that there is a rsvp date for a reason?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Sorry lady!  People are crazy!  They have no idea how important RSVPs are.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

can you start on the escort cards with the RSVPs you already have and not do the seating plan till later? or are you doing something table related on the escort card that is stopping you?

Sorry your going through this, just when you want to be organised too!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Whoa sorry that’s such a bummer. Just be patient maybe the rsvp’s are in the mail. I hope that doesn’t happen to me. I’ve sent out my std’s now I just need to send out my invitations. I can’t wait. Some std’s came back because the address was wrong at least I got a chance to correct that. 

Do you need those RSVP’s for the caterer or just to make your escort cards?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh drat then! it really does muck things up.

Except… there is one possibility.. Print all your escort cards, and can you add a little decorative that has their number later? or is that not the look your going for. I hate having an obstacle in the way! or.. could you have a massive seating chart on the wall.. and everyones cards in front of it, they pick it up and walk to their table? or you could ignore the escort cards (even tho they are a nice touch, and I love these) and just have a seating chart only. and then all the favors on the tables?

Sorry just thinking while typing, so hope it makes sense!

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Hahahahahahahahaha…ha.  @thefuturemrsgibbs: I LOVE the optimism!  But sadly, no, they are not still in the mail.  It’s pretty common for people to just NOT RSVP for a wedding.  “Common etiquette” is not so common.  I have yet to find anyone who actually had everyone RSVP with the cards they were sent.  Almost all brides have to call up the “unknowns” and there is ALWAYS someone who just doesn’t know if they are coming until three days (or ONE day!) before.  People don’t realize how inconvenient that is, and especially for the DIY brides, that can be very stressful!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah I know. One of my first cousins was all just to let you know I hate mailing rsvps back. I won’t even if you put a stamp on it, but I will come to your wedding.

Just curious did you place a stamp on the rsvp envelope? 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I personally don’t think that it is too difficult to pop a card in the mail.  Although I guess it makes a little sense if people were waiting on dates or something.  But still, if there is a deadline people should have the courtesy to make a decision and move on.

Our deadline is next week and we are still missing 50 rsvps!  I have a feeling that we are going to spend most of the week after on the phone.  🙁

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am a self admitted bad RSVPer.  I am terrible at it!  I usually get the wedding invite, stick it on my fridge, write it on my calendar and just forget about it.  I usually end up having an “Oh crap!” moment and end up verbalizing or emailing my friend about my attendance (because I most likely have lost the RSVP card).  I have no excuse and no real reasoning except for procrastination and forgetfulness.  And, I know it’ll drive me crazy when I am waiting for RSVPs for my wedding, but at least I can sympathize!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Our RSVP deadline is this weekend. I have some phone calls to make. What’s the deal with people???? I feel your pain and frustration.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Can someone explain what an escort card is? I’ve never heard this before? Is it you placename which is set on the table to indicate where you are seated?!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

cuz that’s the way it is when you have any big party.

so when the date has passed, you should call people to ask them.  it’s not that hard if you have your fiance call his people, your parents call theirs, etc..

just so you know…you will have changes no matter what.  i had people adding less than 2 weeks before the wedding.  or they RSVP’d yes but couldn’t come in the end…or changed their meal selection.

be proactive in getting responses after the RSVP date. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would hound people down for their RSVP! its a wedding not just a normal gathering of some sort I dont know that people (except us) know how important the rsvp is!….Yes I do not rsvp all the time for birthday parties baby showers etc haha but I do for weddings!

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