(Closed) Why people act like that…I feel sad :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know how you feel. Sorry that some people are so thoughtless 🙁

Post # 5
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry 🙁 while we haven’t sent out our invites yet but I expect some dissapointment. Reality is, you won’t remember who wasn’t there, you will remember who was, and more importantly the events about you and FI.

Post # 7
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Weddings often bring out the best in people. I wouldn’t take it personally at all just enjoy your planning and the upcoming opportunity to spend time with those that RSVP’d yes.

My DH has a very close aunt and uncle that didn’t come to our wedding, no explanation given. They are self-employed so time off wouldn’t have been an issue. We think they opted to save up their money for a trip to Disneyland (taken two weeks later) versus actually supporting our wedding. That is too bad, their loss.

Post # 8
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Treejewel19:  Disneyland just 2 weeks later? That’s harsh, but like you said, it’s their loss.

Post # 9
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@LaCroix:  Yep Disneyland. They got their Club 33 invite after waiting 9 years and sadly were unable to afford the membership. My uncle has a membership (and they know that my DH and I go once a year) and I think there was a bit of jealously floating around as it all happened right around our wedding, but that is just my theory on the matter. They aren’t too incredibly warm to me anyway so again their loss. My DH was a bit bummed and even his parents were a bit surprised they were so unwilling to provide an explanation of why they were the only ones in the family not coming. Oh well.

Post # 10
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11284 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@EuropeanBride:  if your date posted is correct, i can understand the high percentage of declines b/c it’s the last long weekend of the summer.  many families are not around during that weekend.

Post # 11
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3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know how you feel. FI and I are in the same boat where people have given some very lame excuses for why they can’t come and these are people that initially were very excited. We took this as an opportunity to see who our true friends are and who the people who really do care about us are. This wedding has definitely been an eye-opener!

Post # 12
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m sorry to hear that.  I expect a lot of people to disappear on me for mine too.  (some already have upon learning that I’m getting married.)  

If your wedding is on the date that you listed, I imagine that’s going to be labor day weekend.  I know this sucks, but a lot of people, especially those with children plan trips or other family reunions around that holiday.  I know it’s not as big as thanksgiving, but some people may have already put in a lot of money towards the trip aeons ago and don’t want tell you they’re doing something else.  I’m not saying they are right for ignoring you because that’s cowardly.  Just trying to come up with a reason.

Post # 13
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

I am so sorry. Please make a mental note and don’t put a lot of effort for these slackers on their next special occasion.

Post # 14
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some people just don’t care about your event as much as you do. Don’t let that bother you enjoy your day.

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