Why people complain their SO was 'stolen'

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Alright, whose man did you steal?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

The blame should go on the cheater.
The other person may have questionable morals, but he/she has no obligations to anyone.

If a person in a relationship starts developing feelings for a new person and believes this new person is a better fit, he/she needs to get out of the current relationship and then persue it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Since people have free will, they cannot be ‘stolen’ or leave a relationship for a new one, unless they want to. 

And if they leave you that easily for someone else, then it’s best that they’re gone!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

You can’t steal someone who doesn’t want to be stolen 🤷🏻‍♀️

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Well, normally, I would say you can’t “steal” someone, but a person can be manipulated by a conniving person with an agenda. Whether they allow themselves to fall for it and leave, that part is on them, but I have seen people be lied to and manipulated in such a way that they wind up leaving one person for the manipulator.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

” It just means that the new person seemed like a better fit at the time than the prior person. What do you all think? “

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I mean, my husband had a girlfriend when we met. They had been on and off again and were really toxic for each other. He saw that the grass could be greener when we met me so he CHOSE to break up with her prior to pursuing a relationship with me. 

We didn’t talk much during the 1.5 months he was still with her after we met, but I reminded him if he wanted to hang out with me and see if there was something he had to break up with her first. 

I don’t think I stole him, but his ex may be of another mind. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No, I don’t believe someone can be “stolen” but not for the reason you listed.  I also don’t believe someone can be manipulated or coerced into cheating or talked into it.  If someone is going to cheat then it is 100% the cheater’s fault.  As another poster said, the person they cheated with isn’t in a relationship with you and owes you nothing.   It’s 100% up to your so to say no. Getting mad at the person your so cheated with is just misguided anger.  

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m going to guess you’re a homewrecker trying to justify or spin your actions. No one can be “stolen” in the sense you’re referring to but they can be assholes. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think you’re fixating too much on the traditional definition of the word rather than what it’s specifically come to represent in this particular usage.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

By being involved with someone who is taken, you are complicit in actions that will destroy someone’s world. How is that OK?

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