(Closed) Why should I give my daughter a middle name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 107
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@MissMarple  actually, you did say that. See: “Hmm, I always thought her HRC’s name was common knowledge since I’ve heard people call her that a bunch.”

Post # 108
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Buzzing bee

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@mrspinesol  How in the world does that imply that “everyone does it”?

Perhaps you meant that not everyone knows it? ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 109
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@beemyname  Well, to completely blow your theory out of the water, I didn’t get rid of my middle name when I got married.  I happen to think just a first name and last name feels unbalanced and I gotta throw a middle name in there to even things out…but I’m weird like that ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 110
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Helper bee

I used my maiden name as a middle, not because I dropped my middle, but because I had none. It worked for me. Now that I remarried, I kept my ex’s name as my new middle (makes it easier with kids) and use my new last name. 

I like having flexibility with my name and not worrying about offending anyone!

But, it was very hard for the Scantrons on standardized tests when I was younger to reocgnize that I did not have at least a middle initial. 

Post # 111
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Buzzing bee

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@btothez I have never had a problem with scantrons and I don’t have a middle name. Growing up, this was something that worried me, though.

Post # 112
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Helper bee

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@MissMarple  Oh, I had problems with the license branch when I went to get my first driver’s license. I had a military ID card (as a dependent) and it listed my first name and last name, and “D” for dependent. On my first driver’s license, my middle initial was D. 

When I went to get life insurance before I was married, the computer wouldn’t let the agent leave the middle initial blank (since I had by then gotten my driver’s license fixed). My new middle initial, at least according to Northwest Mutual, is A. 

It got slightly annoying!

Post # 113
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beemyname  My name is insane. I have an unusual first name, two middle names, and an unusual last name. Fi also has an unusual (and, erm, anatomical…) last name.

 

I didn’t like the thought of getting rid of my last name for various reasons, so I’m going hyphenating. So now I am going to be First name Middle Name Middle Name Maiden Name-Married Name.

 

O_O

Post # 114
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@beemyname  Dashes are not allowed on government computer forms, hence my mom having to put NONE on all of the forms. I have a hyphenated last name, but can not use the hyphen on electronic forms. My social security card could not even have a dash, for example.

Post # 115
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I go by my middle name, so dropping it definitely isn’t going to happen.  To be honest, I didn’t know people actually do that.  I’m taking my Mr.’s name, but keeping mine as well, so I’ll have four names once we’re married, with my current last name still being the last one.

 

 

Post # 116
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I know a few people without middle names (my Mum is one of them) and they all say they feel like they missed out. As if their parents couldn’t be arsed thinking of one. I tend to agree, I think a middle name is important. 

I have never heard of anyone dropping their own middle name and adding their last name once getting married. 

Post # 117
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Buzzing bee

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@btothez  Oh wow, that sounds really annoying actually! It’s completely the opposite experience of what I’ve had, though I am relatively young so maybe people started realizing that not everyone has a middle name at some point?

I’ve moved around the US and internationally quite a bit (not from a military family, but my parents did have to move for their jobs) so I’ve had to deal with filling out a number forms and changing ID’s and things…and I’ve never had an issue not having a middle name. No one in my family has a middle name, and as far as I know no one has had any issues with not having one.

Post # 118
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@beemyname  I kept my middle name.  As much as I actually dislike it because it’s boring and the same as my mother’s, it’s the one they picked out for me.  My last name is just my Dad’s last name was his Dad’s last name, was his Dad’s last name…

I know people without middle names if you really don’t want to give your child a middle name.  My husband in fact has no middle name and he seems perfectly fulfilled despite having only 2/3 of a name.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 119
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Busy bee

I dropped my middle name without hesitation.  Now I’m FIRSTNAME MAIDENNAME MARRIEDNAME.  The way I looked at it was, I didn’t want to permanently lose my maiden name as it was such a part of my identity.    

That’s actually how a lot of my friends have done it, now that I think about it.  I’m from Pittsburgh and most of said friends are from middle and northern Ohio, if it makes a difference.  

Post # 120
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Buzzing bee

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@crayfish  Uhhh, I don’t write “NONE” or put a dash. I just leave it blank and there have been no issues with the government.

I’m an immigrant to the US who has moved around a lot since I came here so I have had to deal with the government more than most people, and on no form have I ever had to put “NONE” or a dash. Not on my social security card or my naturalization certificate or my passport or my driver’s license or my school forms or my work forms, etc etc.

I just leave it blank and no one has seemed to mind. I’ve never been asked about it or told it was unsual. And that’s what other people in my family do too, since none of us have middle names. Why would you put anything in that space if you’re not required to fill it?

Post # 121
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would expect my daughter to do as I did and keep her middle name and drop her last name. But, another reason is that my new last name is pretty common, so in order to differentiate (email accounts, school, etc.) she may need to use all three names throughout the course of her life. My husband is known by his first, middle, and last name.

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