(Closed) Why should I give my daughter a middle name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 124
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@beemyname:  I’ve only met 1 person who has dropped her middle name, every other person I know has just added just added her husband’s name. I intend to drop my last name and take my husband’s, I like my middle name more than my last name (it’s my step-grandfather’s who I don’t really have a relationship with so it’s not something I’m attached to) but that’s just me.

Post # 126
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think a middle name is important….it was a way to show exactly how mad my mom was.  If she busted out our first and middle names me and my brothers knew she was pissed.  I go by a shorter version of my first name so if the whole first name and middle name came out it meant get a bus ticket and just leave because you really made her mad lol

I dont know anyone who has dropped their first name for the maiden name.  It is your baby so name her whatever you would like.

Post # 128
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@beemyname:  it is actually tradition in my family not to give daughters middle names for this reason my grandmother started it when she realized what a pain it was to sign her name… Eileen Mary-Katherine firstlastname secondlastname, so neither my mom or her sister have a middle name other than confirmation name, and both my sister and i have no middle name!

Post # 129
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007

I dropped my middle name and made my maiden name my middle name. I will give my child a first and middle name because I want them to be able to go by either if they want to.

Post # 130
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Busy bee

wow. I thought dropping your middle name after marriage was something that everyone did.  My mother, sister, and grandmother did it.

Post # 131
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t know anyone in real life who has dropped their middle name when they got married.

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@beemyname:  Yep – I dropped my maiden name and took my husband’s name (with my original middle name my parent’s gave me).

Post # 132
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in the midwest and only know of one woman off the top of my head that dropped her middle name and took her maiden name as her middle name.  All her kids have her maiden name as their middle names, to make matters even more confusing.

I kept my middle name because it’s a family name.  I took DH’s last name because I liked the tradition of it, plus, no one could ever say or pronounce my maiden name correctly. 😉

Post # 133
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

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@beemyname:  I guess I’m kind of confused then.  I can’t answer for parents as a whole, so I answered why I would insist on giving my girl a middle name, because I like the balance that 3 names has.  Maybe I’m completely missing your question, but it seemed like you were asking why people insist on it.

And the first reponse to the beginning part of your post, I should have just been more specific.  Infact, I have never heard of anyone dropping their middle name, so that was quite new to me.  I’ve known a few girls to not have a middle name to begin with, but never to drop a middle name completely.

Sorry if my answer didn’t make sense, and I’m most likely reading your question wrong…It’s only Tuesday and I’m running on Friday braincells…agggg

Post # 135
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@MissMarple:  I was thinking more about people I know personally. 

Post # 136
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the name thing is culteral and regional. Where I’m from in the south, dropping your midding (and replacing it with your maiden) is typical. However, I have a friend (also raised here) but of a different culter and she dropped her maiden name – keeping her middle and adding her husband’s last name. 

I dropped my middle, and took my maiden as my middle. It’s a southern tradition and one I have happy to do. It’s how I always envisioned my name would be after marriage. 

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