(Closed) Why the hate?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Because honestly, 99% of wedding stock photos I see, the bride looks hunched over and contorted into an unflattering pose, or has been photoshopped to unrealistic proportions for a human. I’m sure the models are lovely, but yeah, it would be nice to see some non model brides for a change, as most women don’t look like that and would like to get a more accurate view of what that dress would look like on their body.

Plus the scowling, miserable expressions I so often see don’t exactly scream “Yay I’m getting married!”

Post # 4
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m sorry that you feel this way and that people’s comments have upset you. I don’t know the exact instances, but most people don’t say the models look sickly, anorexic or whatever. I’m sure some might, but most don’t.

I for one DO think I look better than the model in my dress picture, but I would never trash her. I don’t even remember what she looks like, only that I completely passed over my dress online because it didn’t have any impact. Some dresses are like that. Some styles look better on some people, and there should be a variety of sizes in wedding dress model photographs to appropriately show off the way the dress looks.

Post # 5
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Must agree.  Everyone, regardless of shape, size, age, color, or what aesthetic qualities may  have you, are beautiful and worthy of respect.  I’m not sure if this is what you’re addressing (I don’t commonly lurk in threads about dresses), but as someone who is plus size and involved in many “Love Yourself” campaigns, there seems to be this acceptance of putting down others in an attempt to justify your own beauty that may not be as much of a focus in media like magazines or television.  But putting down the models that may have bodies or a certain looks that magazines use more often, you’re doing the same thing.  Beauty does not come in only one shape or form, and calling someone “annorexic and sickly looking” is not okay. </slightly incoherent & sleep ramble> 


Post # 8
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Vidya: “there seems to be this acceptance of putting down others in an attempt to justify your own beauty”  <— that’s interesting and sometimes very true!

OP, I don’t think I’ve ever thought anything negative about a wedding dress model’s body shape, but I’m not a big fan of many of the poses and facial expressions!  You models probably don’t have much control over that part (I imagine there must be direction coming from the photographer or someone) but some of the poses and expressions are downright awful (and like you said, no fun)!  🙂

Post # 9
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Show us some of your pics!

Post # 10
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Vidya: I agree 100%. Sometime I think people forget that models are real women with real body image issues just like the rest of us.

Post # 11
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think sometimes the models are knocked down because the pictures are photoshop and show stick figure. I know I am guilty of saying “never judge a dress by the model wearing it”. I know a few people who think that because some of the models are not curve means the dress will not look right on them. I for one when I was dress shoping was looking for a dress that was worn by a model that had a similar body type to myself.

Post # 12
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Vidya: Such a great post, I totally agree. The woman who models my dress and I could be sisters, there is a pretty uncanncy resemeblence and we are both tall and thin. I am sure all of you look beautiful in your wedding gowns. But all women are beautiful, including the models who wear them. Love each other, ya’ll Smile

Post # 13
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree, I want to see you!

For me, it’s definitely not the models themselves but rather the editing and Photoshop that makes me upset.  I don’t want to see a computer-inhanced person with an impossible body in any sort of advertisement.

Post # 14
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m really sorry that you’ve felt this way. I hardly think that anyone had meant a personal attack. Does it make it ok? No. Do we all have moments of insecurity that maaaaaybe don’t always come out in the best light? Possibly. I am sorry that they put you in some of those unbelievably awkward positions just to sell a product. Thank you for shedding some light on the modeling industry. By all means, post a picture of yourself so we can continue to compliment you!

Post # 15
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d also love to see some of your work. I have seen you in your dress per your previous posts and you are very beautiful!

Post # 16
335 posts
Helper bee

when people complain about the models, they mean to complain about the industry image that has a very narrow view of what is beautiful. obviously, models are good-looking people, but there is an extreme lack of variety in the sizes and shapes (and in many cases, ethnicities) of the models used. yes, they’re beautiful, but they aren’t the only type of beautiful out there.

unfortunately, the hate of the people creating this narrow definition of beauty is sometimes turned towards the models themselves, who are obviously not to blame for all our societal woes. sorry that you’ve seen so much of this. two wrongs don’t make a right.

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