(Closed) Why the hell are people so cruel?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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sandy85:  you did a good thing. Be proud of yourself.

The best thing that you can do in the world, is something for someone that can never pay you back.I find its even classier if you do it on the down low. Plus, you may have rocked that lady so much, maybe next time she’ll think before she acts like a bitter old bitch 🙂

Post # 3
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


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sandy85: Er… I have a feeling I’ll be the odd one out here… There is obviously a great deal of cultural context that I’m missing, not being Australian. But when I am approached by drunken strangers who want me to buy things for them, I’m not likely to be kind, either.

That doesn’t mean I don’t donate to charities and volunteer regularly — that I’m devoid of empathy or simply “out for my own.” It just means that as a woman (or anyone, really) in public, I don’t feel safe interacting with intoxicated strangers who apparently feel entitled to demand things of me. It’s a safety issue, for one thing.

Now, it also seems she threw in some racial slurs? That’s a totally different and inexcusable example of bigotry. But what you focused on most is the fact that the woman denied him a sausage (“Yes, he would buy alcohol before food, yes he probably made himself homeless but does that seriously mean he didn’t deserve to have a sausage in his stomach?”) and there, you lose me. She doesn’t owe the dude anything. Meanwhile, he’s got to know that his behavior is inappropriate, and perhaps intimidating.

Post # 4
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Well done. But I am a little shocked that you swore in front of your six year old.

Post # 6
2307 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

You did a good thing. More people like you please. Everyone has a story.

Post # 8
47 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

You did a nice thing. All you can control in the world are your actions. I have a lot of compassion for people who are homeless- most of them have significant issues with mental health, unemployment, lack of education etc. I am not big on handing people in these situations money (because of the likely issues with drugs/alchohol) but giving someone who is hungry something to eat can only be a good thing in my mind. 

Post # 9
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - The Boatshed Restaurant

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sandy85:  Without getting into it too much…I’ve noticed this year there has been an increase in racism in Australia (think video leaks of racism on public transport). This makes me so sad, as a proud Australian I would like to promote a kind, caring, understanding and inclusive country…that welcomes all. 

Perhaps her initial concern was that it was for fundraising…but that definitely doesn’t excuse her behaviour and racist rant. Ugh why can’t we all be friends!?

It was nice of you to have bought him a sausage, I would have done the same. A little kindness goes a long way and we never know how much of an impact it might make to a persons life (irrespective of ethnicity, religious belief etc).

Post # 10
4070 posts
Honey bee

I am aproud Aussie and I am with you Sandy85.  I’d have done what you did too.  Sometimes you just should suspend judgment and be kind.  You supported a charity and a hungry person and gave some cow some food for thought…  great value for $2!


Post # 11
1113 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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sandy85:  Your actions really warmed my heart! I always feel the world can never have enough kindness!

I’m Canadian, but from an immigrant family and I don’t know if the internet just provides a stage for things because they “go viral”, but I’m finding there is a lot of racism going on. A lot of people now are saying that Canada is “for the Canadians” but meaning the European Canadians, not the Natives. Especially not the Natives… and it angers me to no end. Similar to what this woman said… I’m confused by this, but it seems to be a bandwagon people are jumping on and sharing all over social media… one woman even told me that injustices against the natives was “so long ago” (not really, and even if it was…) that White people should stop apologizing for it, and just “move on”. To her I said, if you want to stake claim to this land as ours, you need to acknowledge how you came to be here. 

You’re a wonderful person..! 


Edit** I should say, I see a lot of people saying… not a lot of people are saying! 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 11 months ago by  MadameHibou.
Post # 13
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Good on you for making sure this  hungry guy got a snag. You did the right thing.  You didn’t just give him money so he couldn’t just buy grog and you made sure he had some food for his tummy. Also you got to teach the lady a lesson on how to be nice to people. I’m proud to have you as a fellow Aussie. 



Post # 14
141 posts
Blushing bee

I’m an American who lived in Australia for a bit, so I know some context. And I can tell that you’re a sweet, good-hearted person. It would be one thing if the woman had said “sorry, luv, but all the proceeds go to helping the children, so I can’t help you out.” Nobody would fault her for deflecting the situation that way. But she was hateful and racist…luckily, you balanced out her bad energy with your kindness. 

Post # 15
141 posts
Blushing bee

OKay, just one anecdote bc you remind me of a friend of mine. I’m not always the most receptive when people on the street ask for my help. But I have a very kind friend who makes me reflect on my actions. I’ve been with her multiple times when someone asked us for a handout. Instead of just coughing up money, she asks for a few minutes. Then she goes into the nearest shop and buys the person something to eat. The people she helps are always taken aback and near tears (as am I). Maybe I’m naive, but I’d like to think that her small acts of kindness make a huge difference.

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