- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I’ve been living with my BF a year in November and we’ve been together about a year an a half. We are inseperable, without it being needed and eveything has been extremely smooth. I think we work well togher and I know he does too. We’ve talked about marriage a lot. He talks long-term about our future. He’s had me pick out a ring and tell him my size 3 months ago. Yet still nothing. And when I ask he says he wants to be sure and he doesn’t want it to be a “sham” and today he wants me to tell him why I think we do and don’t work all the while I’m scratching my head wondering what his probem is. He says it’s not me and it’s his issues.
I have never been engaged or married before but I was in an awful 7 year relationship prior to meeting him. He on the other hand was engaged, but that ended in 2013. She was living with him but seeing his friend on the side until he found out and left. Ironically I’ve found out they were married this year. I know he’s had another girlfriend in the past who cheated on him as well. Is this where this is all stemming from and why he is so hesitant? I just am at a loss why he’s so scared.
I know we haven’t been together that long, but I am 34 and he’s 32. We aren’t kids and I don’t feel like we need a long drawn out courtship. We both have our act togher financially, neither of us has children, everything is in order. I’m not desprate to marry, but marriage is important to me and I don’t have another 7 years to wait. He’s promised me he’d never drag me along and has said he want to be with me and wants us to work. I’m going crazy and needed to just vent! What is his problem (or, maybe this is just my problem?!)?