(Closed) Why the priest may be annoyed with you

posted 11 years ago in Catholic
Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I liked it, too; funny with a sense of faith & (albeit, harshly) educating readers about the Catholic Faith & Religion (they ARE different)…I agree with lolo, that he’s probably being over the top for the blog.  But educating, whether harshly or warm & fuzzy, is the JOB of the priest. 

It does sometimes frustrate me, reading about brides who are annoyed by all the hoops to get married in the Church because they want it to be as easy as getting married by the state or some other church (@jocelyn3476: I do NOT include you in that category…I’m so sorry that you and your FH had such a difficult time trying to include both faiths in the ceremony.  As devout Orthodox/Catholics, you should be able to honor both faiths).  I mean, try to treat your relationship with the Church as you once did your relationship with your FH…when there were moments of differences in opinion or when you were just getting to know each other, didn’t you give him the benefit of the doubt?  When he stood his ground on something he believed in, didn’t you take the time to understand why?  Same consideration should go to the Catholic Church…don’t just assume that the Church is against you; please also don’t assume that the Church works as your employee, either.  If the Catholic faith is NOT important to you or your FH, DON’T get married in the Church – please enjoy the celebration of your legally valid marriage wherever will make you both happiest.  Please don’t knock the faith & expectations of a religion that you don’t believe in…just celebrate elsewhere.  Please know that the doors to worship & question the faith are ALWAYS open, but the opportunity to ridicule or complain is NOT.  Practicing Catholics should do the same; I will not knock anyone’s decision to not believe or strength of belief in a faith not my own.  

So sorry about the rant…not intended to offend; rather to stand up for my faith & its expectations.  

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ms. Pascua, you worded what I couldn’t. Thank you. It bothers me when people just want a wedding because it’s pretty… that’s not what it’s about at all.

Still, that priest was a bit harsh even though he makes many valid points.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think the article is humorous and that he exagerrated things to make his point. It has a very good message. Too many brides care too much about the things don’t matter. They get sucked into the planning. Also, respect the church and its beliefs. The part about the communion in the pocket was funny but shocking. I can’t believe someone actually did that.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I thought it was hilarious, In My Humble Opinion.   I have to say though, I have been a member of my Catholic church since I was confirmed in middle school…and I must say, I have NO clue how long the aisle is lol. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Ha Ha!  I am laughing out loud!

I loved it!

Obviously, he’s being satirical – but he has really good points.  If you truly believe in the Catholic faith, you should not be offended.  If you don’t then you shouldn’t be offended either.  Everyone has the right and responsibility to live up to whatever religious/spiritual belief they have committed to.  This preist is simply pointing out that too many “believers” do not live up to their Catholic faith and the Sacrament of Marriage.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I thought of this last week when we had our first meeting with the priest and he THANKED US at the end for being so timely in our meetings and for actually taking this as “we’re preparing for marriage” and not a wedding day πŸ™‚

I liked it….. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

So funny – I love it!

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

I thought this was hilarious! 

And about the communion thing… I am atheist, and unless someone told me not to get communion, I would think it was disrespectful that if I didn’t get it.  I haven’t been to a church since I was 10, so I hardly remember anything from when I did go (I mostly doodled on a piece of paper πŸ˜‰ ).  If you want to make sure people don’t get it, then put something in your program or have the priest explain it/make an announcement.  Don’t just expect that non-religious people or people of other faiths know the traditions of your faith if something like that is so important to you. πŸ™‚

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most churches will announce that Communion is only for “catholics in good standing with the church.”  In our Religion, we believe that the “host” is actually transformed into the ACTUAL body of Christ.  Kids can’t take it until they go through classes and education and it’s something that deserves profound respect. (why we kneel and bow so much πŸ™‚  So in your case, it would actually be extremely disrespectful TO receive it πŸ™‚ but no worries, at weddings/funerals/etc they almost always make an announcement… they also invite all the non-catholics to come and receive a blessing instead of communion… but if that’s not something your comfortable with there no reason you have to πŸ™‚ but for future refrence, it’s an no no to receive Catholic communion. Other denominations however view it as merely a “symbol” and you are free to receive in other denominations.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ummm…I’ll be the first to say that his blog resembled my wedding. Hahah!

It was sooo hard to motivate my lapse Catholic hubby to care at all about the ceremony. We were on hikes and I was lecturing to him about the meaning of life and how cross-culturally, weddings were always present. I tried to explain to him how a wedding was the first step in the dawning of human conscioussness, but he just didn’t care or think that way. Which is why I married him–I think too much and he helps me relax and be in the moment. But he’s in finance and I teach yoga. Hahah!

So I picked the music and the readings and hubby worked out and watched tv.

Our priest was annoyed with us for sure. He made us watch the Kirk Cameron movie: Fireproof as homework and then call him to discuss it with him.

I did the Catholic thing to please our families. But the priest was shocked: two Catholics who have never been married wanting to get married in his church? And that church cost $2000. Ugh.

Yes, my wedding was similar to that and I am woman enough to admit it. But our marriage is going well so far, so maybe that Pre Cana torture workshop helped. Hubby and I shared a horrible experience together there and we’ve been stronger ever since.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

He honestly sounds like my parish priest.  Which is why my parish priest isn’t marrying us! 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee

WOW!  I hope that was not a real response to someone!!!

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s funny, and largely true (we had a Catholic wedding and while I didn’t ask about the length of the aisle or request a garden wedding, am guilty of some of the infractions noted in his reply!)

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