(Closed) Why the vday hate?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was never sad about not having a boyfriend on Valentines day because my mom always bought me candy and cute socks, maybe that’s why I’ll never understand the haters.  Tongue Out

ETA: Nothing against people who chose not to celebrate, either, so long as they don’t rain on my parade if I want to celebrate! (I’m looking at you, lady in my office.)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I actually think more people like Vday than hate it.

Personally I really don’t care but my husband has a real issue with the commercialization of it.  And since I don’t really care either which way we don’t celebrate it.

But I encourage others to celebrate it! Just because we don’t doesn’t mean I think others shouldn’t. I would not say we are sour about it at all.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not sour about it. I’ve never been a big romantic person so I honestly didn’t care and my ex’s have been happy about that. My Fi however likes that type of stuff so now we do something, I know he probably going to send flowers and a gift, and I already got him some snowboarding stuff that was on sale after the holidays.

 I also think it is possible to do simply things like cook a meal or spend time together without breaking the bank.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was never sour on it even when I was single.  My dad used to send flowers to work from a “secret admirer” every year I was single.  I always thought it was so sweet.  He still makes sure my mom has flowers and candy on VDay too, even though they have been divorsed for more than 10 years.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t hate it, I just don’t care. I prefer to go out to dinner on another night that is special to only us, not everyone. But I’ve never really cared, even before I was with Darling Husband.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I love valentines day!!

I’m a hopeless romantic, though. I’ve always loved it, even when single. I don’t care if it’s commercialized or the ‘he should make you feel special every day’ blah blah blah. It’s fun, and cute. And I like it. Lol.

@MissBoPeep:  My mom also used to make me a little gift bag with candy and fun stuff!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t know if I’d count as “sour” on it, but I’m not a fan. It just seems so forced/contrite to me. Like oh… society told you to buy me flowers so you went ahead and did it like every other guy in the world… how… thoughtful.. lol. Not that I’d want a real gift either because between my birthday, Christmas, and our anniversary, I feel like I get plenty of gifts and I don’t need my guy (or myself for that matter) to feel the pressure to think up another one. So yea, not a fan. But I don’t rain on other people’s parades if they want to celebrate. Doesn’t matter to me what everyone else will be doing tomorrow night, we’ll be having dinner at home and watching tv like always 🙂 I guess the only thing that really annoys me is when I tell people we don’t celebrate it and they give me that look. You know the one.. thats all “aw… her husband must not be romantic because he swindled her out of a gift”? Not a fan of that either. We choose not to celebrate and that says nothing about his romantic-ness or our relationship so stop with the judgy eyes. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I love valentine’s day too! It is such a warm, happy day that helps break up dreary February. I probably like it because my mom likes it, and she always made it a special day for us kids.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t hate on it…it’s just an annoying day to go out to dinner and such in my opinion.  All the restaurants are crowded and have silly pre-fixe menus.  Impossible to get a cab home, or just get a drink somewhere afterwards because everything is packed. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I’ve always been slightly indifferent I suppose, but this year I’m a little bit sad about it (well, most days I guess!).  DH left 2 weeks ago for a year long deployment…so any day that we can’t be together is super bittersweet!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My Mom always got me presents so I was never without a Valentine. Even so I don’t like it. I don’t hate Vday and I wouldn’t rain on someone’s parade that does enjoy it but I don’t like or celebrate it personally. I think my SO likes this because I expect nothing from him, no dinner, no flowers and candy. It’s just Tuesday tomorrow to us.

I never ever say anything negative to people who love it. I respect their desire to celebrate and be excited. And most people in my life respect that I will not say Happy Vday back.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It seems like a lot of people just don’t like going out and spending a lot of money on Valentine’s day, maybe this is part of the reason I don’t have anything against it.  We never go out for dinner or spend a lot of money! We usually exchange cards and maybe small gifts (less than $10 most of the time), and then cook a nice meal together at home, maybe rent a movie and just spend some quality time together.  I love it. 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I never quite understood why singles got so…angry about Valentines day. I never cared all that much about the holiday, whether I was single or not.

The best Valentines were in elementary school anyway, am I right? I still miss those desk envelopes stuffed with valentines and candies from my classmates!

This year our Valentines day discussion was like this…

Darling Husband: So what do you want for Valentine’s day? Do you want to go out?

Me: Sure, but not on Valentine’s day. Oh oh, I know! I’m going to buy myself strawberries and dip them in chocolate!

Darling Husband:…?

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wasnt trying to hate or bash people who celebrate, I was simply stating why I don’t celebrate. It’s just not for me. I posted that thread to see if anyone else was in the same boat as me.

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