Post # 1
Why do people insist on trying to touch a baby’s hands and face? WHY? I feel like I’m constantly trying to stop people from doing that or asking them not to, and then I get looks like I’m being a jerk or being over-protective. Is it really that bizarre to you that I don’t want you to touch her hands after you’ve opened the door to Tim Horton’s and then handed a cashier money? Because she will immediately put that hand in her mouth, and frankly it would be just as well if I let her lick the door handle and then lick the money. Seriously, do you want me to do that?!???
Ugh. I’m just sick of people looking at me like I have ten heads when I say please don’t touch her hands or please don’t touch her face (at least until you’ve washed your hands, and even then, is it necessary??) I’ve even tried saying “The doctor told me to make sure…” blah blah blah and I still get the “look”.
Sorry… I’m just particularly frustrated with this today and had to vent. Thanks Bees.
Post # 3
I guess I never thought about it, but I’ve also never heard anyone complain about people doing that before, but your opinion does make sense.
I guess we’ll see how protective I’ll be come February.
Post # 4
I’m just aghast that people do this. I’ve never touched anybody’s baby without being invited.
Post # 5
@Elvis: I’m agahast as well. I mean, not to make this comparison, but if I wouldn’t touch someone’s pet without their permission, I wouldn’t touch their baby, which is far more precious.
Post # 6
I had a conversation with a good friend who just had her first child about this. Actually, she was talking about the dangers of people touching or holding a newborn – she knew a child who almost died because he caught some germs from someone when they held him because babies aren’t that immune yet or whatnot. So, my friend was talking about how it makes her nervous every time anyone comes around her baby or tries to touch her.
As someone who has never had a child, this blew my mind. I had no clue that touching a baby could be so bad for them – I had just never thought about it. I think most people are just so excited by cute babies and think it’s harmless to “pet” them – unless they’ve had children of their own or really been made aware of the dangers, it would never cross their mind.
Post # 7
@sessaj:I would carry around hand sanitizer in your pocket. I think it’s less “crazy”, if you will, to request that be used then not touch. Unless you still don’t want your baby touched. 🙂
Post # 8
Are you talking about strangers or friends & family? Because to me these are two totally different issues.
Post # 9
I’m surprised people just want to come up and touch your baby too… I would never try to touch a stranger’s baby.
Post # 10
I’m surprised everytime I hear someone talk about this. I would NEVER touch someone’s baby without asking first!! And that includes family members (unless it was a super close family member, like my sister). But it’s never crossed my mind to touch a stranger’s baby!! I’ve heard of people that have signs on their carseats that say “Please Don’t Touch the Baby” or something similiar. Maybe you could try and buy a sign to let people know ahead of time to keep their hands to themselves!
Post # 11
I definitely don’t touch strangers’ babies, and when coworkers’ or acquaintances’ babies, I usually opt for the feet (which can still manage to make their way into the babies’ mouth), or ask to hold the baby. I think asking is the key. You ask to look closer at a person’s purse, you should darn well ask before touching a living being!
Post # 12
I don’t mind people I know holding the baby, most people make a point of going to wash their hands, but I have been surprised at random people trying to touch.
This is going to sound horrible but it’s always been people who look dirty themselves who want to touch her. This one time I was waiting for my husband to go get the car and this woman, who had what looked like impetigo all over her face and hands, kept trying to touch her, I had been jogging but had luckily picked baby up out of stroller, but when I backed away from woman touching baby the woman decided to lean on the stroller as she talked. I didn’t want to be mean but I was about to cry, like do you not realize you have a contagious skin disease and you keep following me around trying to touch baby and now you decided to lean all over her stroller. I was so frazzled by the time husband got to us trying to not make a scene, my husband agreed she had impetigo so we did some serious disinfecting of the stroller when we got home.
Post # 13
@melodicsighs1: I agree, I had never even thought twice about it. Of course I always wash my hands first and I would never touch a strangers’ baby.
I’ve been around a LOT of babies and I’ve never been told not to touch and never had the parents say it wasn’t ok. Usually they’re passing them over because they want a break!
Post # 14
I haven’t really had a problem with random people wanting to touch DS (he’s 5 months). Maybe your kid is cuter than mine 🙂
Although I wouldn’t be surprised if it happens more now that he’s interacting with people and reaching for things. I think it’s weird to try to touch someone else’s newborn (or kid of any age who is uninterested in you) but if I was smiling and waving back and forth with a six month old in line at the grocery store and s/he reached out a hand, I could see being inclined to reach back and touch his/her hand. (If I was a smiling-and-waving-at-babies kind of person, which I’m not, but I can imagine it)
Post # 15
@Ms. Martian: I feel like it’s different with people you know. I don’t think twice about handing DS over to our friends (unless I think they’re actively dispensing viral load or something). I probably should care if they wash their hands first, but I figure it’s a drop in the bucket compared to what DS is exposed to from the dog and daycare.
Post # 16
Make it seem like it’s for the other person’s safety, not the baby’s. Say something like “Oh little Johnny is just getting over a nasty cold, so I hope you forgive me that I’m forbidding him to touch anyone except for Mommy and Daddy”.
I’ve had new parents use that one on me tons of times and I’m never offended. It’s less confrontational and for some reason makes you seem less ‘crazy’ even though it shouldn’t seem crazy at all to want to keep germs away from your newborn.