(Closed) Why was or wasn't a diamond your first choice?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Why was or wasn't a diamond your first choice?

    I wanted another gemstone

    I wanted a diamond all along

    I wanted a lab made stone

    I was price conscious

    My FI picked out my ring

    I had ethical concerns


  • Post # 3
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @HisQueenToBee:  I always wanted a diamond because I think clear stones go with more (in a matching kind of way), and I’m kind of matchy. I didn’t know about Moissanite until a few years ago, and at that point, a diamond was pretty much already in the works. 

    I also love emeralds and aquamarines, and would have been happy with just about anything on my finger, but diamond was my top pick.

    Post # 4
    7309 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I wanted a diamond, plain and simple. I knew all about moissanite, sapphires, cz, etc. Trying to be thrifty, I spent months attempting to talk myself into wanting something other than a diamond. But ultimately, I just wanted a diamond, we could quite comfortably afford one, and there wasn’t a reason not to get one. That said, I only wanted a Canadian diamond because I do not have trust in the kimberly process. So I was picky about it, to an extent. Fortunately Mr. LK was all about getting whatever would make me happy

    Edit: I ruled out other stone options during my “convince yourself that you want something less expensive” phase like this:

    I wanted something naturally occurring. For me, something man-made in a factory/lab was not an appropriate symbol of our relationship. That ruled out moissanite and cz stones. I also wanted something color neutral, which ruled out colored stones. Then I was down to white sapphires and diamonds. White sapphires don’t have the amount of sparkle of a diamond, so diamond was really all that was left. And since it is what I wanted in the first place, it became a done deal.

    Post # 5
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    @HisQueenToBee:  I did want a diamond, and that’s exactly what I got. I didn’t know there were any other options (no, I really didn’t know) and then I discovered moissanite (I was hunting for a new setting), and I was head over heels in love with this stone. 
    I like that it’s colourless, sparkles more than a diamond, and it’s relative toughness is exceptional. I knew I wanted something that would last for ever. 
    I guess the price point definitely swayed both Fiance and I too!

    Fiance surprised me with a moissanite a month or so ago, as I kept having allergic reactions to my original ering anyway. I still wear it, but only for a short period. My skin eats through the freaking rodium, ugh.

    All in all, I love both of my rings, and to me it doesn’t matter that one’s a diamond, and the other is moissanite, I love the man who gave me them!

    Post # 6
    6545 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @HisQueenToBee:  We had an heirloom so it made the decision easy 😉 That said, if I realllly wanted something else I am sure I could have gotten it. I would have chosen yellow sapphire or black diamond – those were the other contenders. That said, I was happy to have the heirloom reset and call it a day!

    Post # 7
    1181 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @HisQueenToBee:  I wanted a diamond: Tradition, cultural acceptance, personal preference of the sparkle. No one I know besides Future Mother-In-Law (who now upgraded to a diamond) ever had a non-diamond engagement ring. Where I am from, its just diamonds. 

    Post # 8
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @HisQueenToBee:  Diamonds are extremely durable, for starters. We made sure our diamond is Canadian sourced and certified (it even has a microscopic tracable serial number inscribed by laser on the edge!). I had little interest in moissanite or the like, because I prefer the brilliance of diamond and did not want to worry about any problems with the stone in the future. I wrestled with the idea of a gemstone ring for awhile, as well as going completely ringless, but in the end my Fiance and I decided that having a nice crisp durable white gemstone would be elegent and classic, and we liked it as a symbol of our committment to each other. My ring also has a tiny sapphire set in the side (its part of the Birks Blue collection) which my Fiance absolutely loved because it is his birthstone!

    Post # 9
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @HisQueenToBee:  Fiance asked if it could be something other than a diamond, because he likes a pop of color. When I thought about it I realized that a purple sapphire was perfect for me because I’m obsessed with purple. I wasn’t worried about matching, because I wear multiple amethyst RHR’s every day and it doesn’t bother me if they don’t match my outfit. But most of the time I’m wearing something purple anyway! 

    Post # 10
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Diamond (and yellow gold) were the only materials we wished to use because they’re what both Fiance and I see as traditional wedding jewelry being made of. We really wanted our wedding set to be classic and to scream “Marriage!”

    I would have considered colored gem accents (like rubies) in the shank of the ring but Fiance wasn’t into that at all. Not even natural colored diamonds. For him, only clear diamond and gold gold signified engagement. Since it was his gift to me symbolizing his desire to be my husband, I was more than happy to receive a ring that he really felt represented that the best. I love it!

    Post # 11
    4147 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I just answered that DH picked out my ring. I like diamonds, I like other stones. I didn’t really have a preference.

    But DH picked the ring out entirely himself, with no help (or conversation) with me at all. But DH being who he is, I knew it would be a diamond. he is very traditional with some things, and that is one of them. Diamond for an engagement ring.

    Post # 12
    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @HisQueenToBee:  I love colour and wanted a coloured gem stone. I got a coloured diamond because they are just the most hard wearing stone out there…..or so I was convinced by my jewler!

    Post # 13
    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    – Clear stones match more stuff, and this is something you will wear every day.

    – I prefer naturally occurring stones (just a preference).

    – DH chose it, and he is a traditionalist. It was always going to be a diamond.

    Post # 14
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @HisQueenToBee:  FH picked the ring entirely on his own, and so I got a diamond. But really, I’m not picky about the stone. I just wanted something white or light coloured and I got it.

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    @lovekiss:  I’m pretty sure the Canadian government does adhere to the Kimberley Process, but I could be wrong. I’ve never bothered looking it up.

    Post # 15
    3208 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @HisQueenToBee:  I just preferred the look and sparkle of a good clarity well-cut diamond. I tortured myself over the price tag and ordered an Amora moissy to compare, but it looked like the diamond’s bargain basement sister. I was set on moissy until my Fiance stepped in and told me to pick whichever stone I’d want if money wasn’t a consideration. I picked a diamond, after sending back two stones to Blue Nile.

    I do feel silly having paid for the diamond though, since I had several heirloom diamonds that we could have had for free. Their specs were different than the stone I would have picked for myself (warmer, higher clarity, ideal cut, smaller carat size) so I wouldn’t have been 100% happy without my current ring.

    Post # 16
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I only care for diamonds in my wedding/e-rings.  For myself, it’s just not that precious to me if it’s not a diamond.  I’d even prefer a smaller diamond over a larger stone of any other type. 

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