(Closed) Why was or wasn't a diamond your first choice?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Why was or wasn't a diamond your first choice?

    I wanted another gemstone

    I wanted a diamond all along

    I wanted a lab made stone

    I was price conscious

    My FI picked out my ring

    I had ethical concerns


  • Post # 32
    2354 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Zesty:  Haha ! I just realized the birthstone of our relationship is … a diamond. 

    Post # 33
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @HisQueenToBee:  I think we agreed on diamonds because we both feel a little traditional about it We went antique, the diamonds aren’t big but it sparkles like crazy and I love it. After I got it we realized it’s similar to FMIL’s ring. We like the traditional feel but we were also price conscious.

    Etsy antique find for the win!

    Post # 34
    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wanted a clear stone and feel the prices for diamonds are ridiculous.  I had a certain look I wanted and it was not possible to have in diamonds with our budget.  I don’t feel like I should have to wear a ring I don’t like just because engagement rings are “supposed to be” diamonds.

    I did not like the way white sapphires or white topaz looked, so Moissanite to the rescue!

    Post # 35
    5641 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    For my first ering I wanted, and got, a diamond.  For my upgrade I wanted, and got, a gemstone.  I love any rock, diamond or colored gemstone.

    Post # 36
    866 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @lovekiss:  Oh so is my stone. Apparently the process is actually used here, but I’m guessing only for diamonds that are imported from other countries. Canadian diamonds are conflict-free in the sense that they are not blood diamonds, etc, but I think there are still issues in regards to displacement of Native communities up north so mines can expand. I’m not entirely sure, but it’s definitely not as bad as the problems that surround mines in other countries. Most likely those problems have been solved by now. But, I love sparkly diamonds and I’m not going to let something hold me back from getting one!

    Post # 37
    6835 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I have an heirloom diamond, but if that weren’t available, I would want a gemstone.  Both ethical and practical financial reasons would come into play.  I’m pretty frugal and couldn’t stomach my husband spending 5k+ on a rock to put on my hand.  (Would have eloped if our families hadn’t funded most of our wedding, too.)

    Post # 38
    1320 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I knew all about the pricing behind diamonds and could not justify paying the premium for such a scheme. That and we felt that our money (since once we marry his money is mine an dmine is his) is much better spent invested elsewhere – home, kids, education. We are currently debt-free and that freedom I would love to have over any material item. My ring is still pretty and custom – it’s a Morganite – but I would not die if it got stolen or damaged.

    Post # 39
    2248 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    I like color, and I dont like unethical mining. I considered a colored diamond (grey or cognac) but the time to find one that would have matched my specs (VS1 and I’m very particular about the shade of color), and my husbands specs (2ct) would have taken forever.  It wasnt something we wanted to wait on. We went with a color changing sapphire that is predominently purple (my favorite color) but has a main shift to green (hubs favorite color). It makes other colors too which keep my ADD tendencies amused at all times. Someday though I’m getting a fat grey diamond for a 3 stone!

    Post # 40
    1345 posts
    Bumble bee

    I LOVE diamonds and always have since I was a little girl and first discovered them.

    For me, I will always choose diamonds as the center stone for my Ering.  I love gemstones and other types of stones for my RHR or earrings/necklaces.  But for my Ering, diamonds all the way.

    Post # 41
    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I absolutely love coloured gemstone rings, but I just didn’t feel I could commit to one colour for the rest of my life, so I wanted clear stones. I also wanted a stone from the earth rather than man made for my engagement ring. Plus Fiance is traditional and wanted me to have a diamond. So diamond it was. I would love to own jewellery with other types of stones one day though. 

    Post # 42
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @HisQueenToBee:  To me, engagement ring = diamond ring. I never considered another option. Never heard of mossainite until I joined WB after I got engaged, and my Fiance would’ve never bought anything other than a diamond anyway. I just like how “diamonds are forever” and they’re so beautiful. I have other rings that aren’t diamonds that I wear on my right hand but again, I just never wanted anything else for an ering.

    Post # 43
    7111 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If I were picking a new ring I probably would not have gone diamond unless my husband was really insistent. I would probably have gone for a emerald (I love saphire’s too, but I dislike the popularity associated with the Kate Middleton now). But if I had found out about moissy’s I might have gone that route. Or a yellow sappire. Dunno. But probably not diamond. For both eithical and financial reasons. 

    But, we combined two heirloom rings, so I’ve got diamond and I love it! The sentimentality is worth it not being what I would have picked myself.

    Post # 44
    1039 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    Always wanted a diamond – a princess cut in a cathedral setting to be exact.  I knew since I was 16 that’s what I wanted.  And that’s what I got :)))

    Post # 45
    3971 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I didn’t want a diamond because I could never justify the inflated cost for them. I don’t wear jewelry to begin wtih, so the idea of blowing $8k on a RING absolutely blew my mind and, honestly, I didn’t want some tiny, speck of a stone just so I could have the “honor” of saying it was a diamond. To me, that is just so ridiculous. 

    And from my personal experience (not necessarily on the Bee) I have found a sense of cattiness and elitism with those who have diamonds compared to those who don’t. My SO wanted to get me a diamond because he was convinced an e-ring HAD to be a diamond and that if it wasn’t, people were going to assume the worst of him: He didn’t love me enough to get me a diamond, he couldn’t afford one, etc. 

    I flipflopped on several stones, as I had known FOREVER that I didn’t want a diamond. I was given a pair of diamond studs for my 18th birthday by my parents and honestly…eh. They were okay, nothing special in my opinion. I now have them locked away for a future daughter someday. I had my heart set on a colored gemstone for a while (morganite, sapphire), but was concerned about the stone going with everything and durability. 

    Eventually, the sparkle of a moissanite spoke to my spirit. Getting my SO to agree took some convincing, but ultimately, it was my choice. I like to say that even if we had $1 million to spend, I would still opt out of a diamond.

    Post # 46
    2585 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have a diamond because that’s what my husband gave me.  I’m willing to bet he has no knowledge of any alternative stones. Even if he had, he still would’ve made the same choice. He’s a proud man Lol.


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