(Closed) Why, why does everyone have dress regrets?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I have zero dress regret. I have date regret, and season and venue regret, but none for the dress. But I went a little out of my way to limit my own options first, and that helped. I am curious what “nicer” dresses would have looked like, but I didn’t give myself a chance to find out. That helped, too.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

haha, @BKGraham…I heard of the jelly study, too!  In that case, I think they didn’t buy when they had too many options, but most of us still have to have something to wear   😉

ladies, please do yourself a favor and try (as much as possible) to stop LOOKING after you bought yours…I really don’t understand people who weeks later try on other dresses…that’s just setting you up for heartache and extra $$$$.

Post # 19
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

For me I let my friends opinions override my own. The reason why i am so obsessed with my dress is because I want to look perfect for my Husband on that day, I want him to look at me and think I am the most beautiful thing he has ever seen! And when i ordered my first dress….i didnt think he would see me that way. so I went back and sure enough I found a dress I am SO confident in! It wont be here for another 3 months but i just know i will adore it just as much as the day i bought it!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

bkgrahamwedding you make a good point about being inundated with so many dress options.

I am trying to avoid this temptation of looking at other weeding dresses now that I have ordered mine.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had no dress regret.  I didn’t have an “this is the one” moment, but that is just not my style.  I loved my dress, but for me the key was not looking after purchasing, and I also didn’t feel like I had to have the “perfect” dress.  I just wanted to look beautiful.

Post # 22
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Worker bee

I do not have dress regret, but I also tried on almost 60 dresses!! I think had I tried on only a few (or even like 30) I may have wondered if I found the one. I know that 60 is nothing in comparison to the infinite number of dresses out there, but I felt like I really knew what I wanted by that point.

I always wonder how people on Say Yes to the Dress commit so quickly! 🙂

I agree with what a lot of people have said – we’re girls, we place to much value on what our families think, etc. Dress regret happens, and I feel so badly when it does!!

Post # 23
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I think it’s also because it’s not just a dress, it’s a dress on your body.  A venue is something outside of youself – it looks how it looks, a flower is a flower, etc.  But on us, a garmet takes on more meaning.  From one angle it looks good, from other not so great, and then any self-confidence or body issues we may have can also come into play. 

As someone who has flirted with dress regret and spent a lot of time on wedding blogs and boards, I can certainly say that some brides have valid reasons for their regret.  Some did not explore the options well enough, others got pushed into buying what their mom liked, etc.  I’m not afraid my fiance will turn away from me in disdain, but I have definitely seen brides who chose the wrong dress for their body type. 

Plus, did you ever have a night when you went out and thought your outfit looked slammin’, saw the pics on Facebook the next day and thought you looked fug?  I know that was a fear of mine, especially because none of the shops in my area allow pictures. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I will agree with the advice to stop looking at dresses after you have paid for yours. Before I purchased my gown I LOVED so many different styles of dresses that I just knew I would never be able to choose. However, once I narrowed down my selections, tried them on and selected one…I resisted the urge to look for anything else for me. Therefore when I picked up my dress and tried it on I was just as in love with it.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t have dress regret.  However, for me, it’s hard to purchase something so representative of our wedding day… and not get to try it on in my size/color for 5 months!  I can always go back to the venue, go to a florist and look at flowers… but the dress is so elusive until closer to the wedding!  It drives me nuts sometimes, and I do find myself second guessing my decision, just because I have so long to think about it without actually seeing it. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

How about this perspective: the wedding dress is NOT built for comfort, whereas we buy most clothing based on how it looks on us AND that it’s pretty comfortable… so I think a lot of people love it while it’s on, get it home, and realize they have to wear this fifty pound bunch of tulle for eight hours at an outdoor wedding in july or whatever and start having these major doubts! I don’t blame them!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t have dress regret and I loved my dress. That said, I do regret that I didn’t try on more dresses.

Post # 28
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

i had no dress regrets, but i think it is definitely because its something you wear on your body, its deeply personal. when everyone stands at the ceremony and wooshes their head around, its not the venue or the flowers or the… photographer they’re looking at, its you in your dress. and you only get one of those moments.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

me, I’ll never have that “one” dress.  I was able to get a dress for free.  I did’t particularlly like the dress I got, but my sister and niece like it, they say it looks good on me and that’s enough.  It’s a dress.  I’m not going to find the “one” because I’m not going to pay for it.

I’m going to pay for me wedding out of my own pocket (until my parents realize I’m not asking them to pay for things).  So that means around $20,000 out of my own bank account.  So saving $1000 on a dress is a big deal and I’m not going to try on another dress when I got a free one hanging up in my closet.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am regretting my dress right now (in this very moment) because I made a hasty decision and could have gotten something better suited for me. But my problem is just that my dress is 500 miles away and I can’t see it or touch it EvER. SO i’m having my mother bring it up to me at Christmastime so that I can hang on to it til the fittings.

I definitely had my vey own dress crisis this evening.

Post # 31
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@bkgrahamwedding – I’m a social psych grad atudent, and I thought of the same thing – it’s the tyranny of choice! Of course, you could argue that cognitive dissonance could explain those who don’t have dress regret 😉

All nerdiness aside, I don’t have dress regret. I think it’s helpful to stop looking at dresses once you’ve committed to one. Of course I see pretty dresses on blogs, but I’m not actively searching out other options.

 

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