@yehyehgirl: I’m just really curious… So if your husband were to leave/pass away/ etc… would you still believe that you had a family? What is your definition of family?
Fortunately, most women come to the realization that they do, in fact, need a man—at least if they want a family.
Also, would you refuse a higher paying job just so your Husband could “bring home the bulk of the bacon“?
Furthermore, if your husband were to lose a full time job, or decide that he wants to be a stay at home dad, would you feel disappointed him him as a husband and father?
So why not let husbands bring home the bulk of the bacon so women can have the balanced lives they seek? There’s no way to be a wife, a mother and a full-time employee and still create balance. But you can have balance by depending on a husband who works full-time and year-round.
Obviously, I have stated my issues with this articule up above. However, I do want to say that the issue with this article is that it does play onto very specific gender roles. It pigeon-holes both genders for life. The article also assumes that every couple decides to have children, or that every hubsand needs to bring home the larger check. What happens to a relationship if that changes?
As for the last statement and question presented in the article, she is saying that there are obviously a lot of men who do not want to be primary breadwinners anymore. As in, all of the good men are gone now. Then, she presents the question of why and implies that we know (because she just discussed it)
She is saying that the reason men do not want to provide for families anymore is because women overshadow them with their own careers/wants. Just like the Jennifer Aniston example, of how she did not need a man/ husband to have a family. Venker is placing the blame on women by saying “Since you also have high powered career goals, you are creating a slew of men who do not want to provide for someone who has a high powered career”. So, why are all of the good men gone? Because we women do not respect their wants/needs to provide enough. We don’t “lean” on them the right way. When in reality, it does not matter who brings home the bigger check, you can still respect your husband and make him feel just as wanted/needed/ and loved.
To sum up: Instead of saying it is the mens fault for not adapting to changes in gender equality, she places it on women because we were the ones to change in the first place.
So it’s not really a different strokes for different folks type of article. Venker obviously believes this “problem” to be a huge cultural issue.