(Closed) Why would a guy that I haven't hooked up with try to treat me like a booty call?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He’s just testing the waters – typical man behavior! If you don’t want him to think you’re interested in that way, then tell him straight up, “I’m not interested”. Even saying something a bit more polite, such as “Sorry, I’m busy” leaves him an opening to ask again on another night. Gotta be straightforward with these pigs! 😛

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I bet he knows you aren’t interested, but wants to see if he can at least get something out of it. Tell Ann not to give anyone else your number.

 

Tell him you aren’t interested, point blank. I always worry about being rude with these things personally, but he already was rude to you. Tell him to step!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Because men have two heads and all to often think with the wrong one.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

He didn’t have any dang dinner plans. You said YOU did and that was all he could come up with. I don’t think he was trying to treat you like a booty call. He is just looking for an “in” and making excuses to be around you and in your area. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would be more upset at my friend giving out my number. Now you have no way to just politely ignore him. Now he has your Number. Just tell him you’re not interested at all in hanging out. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Annonnie89:  I’m not seeing how he is treating you like a booty call. By saying some other time is like leaving the door wide open for him to come in. Idk how blunt you were with him to begin with but maybe you should just tell him no you don’t want to hang out with him or just ignore him. There is a very slight and i mean slight possibility that he just wants to be friends but from what i gather he is more on the needy side and maybe your friend is trying to help the guy get a date. Have you expressed this to your friend? 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper

Maybe he meant to pick you up to go out for drinks or something. He wasn’t necessarily implying anything inappropriate.  I’d just keep being busy another time or two.  He’ll get the hint, especially if you don’t make any alternate suggestions. That is if you are sure you don’t want to give him one more chance. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t get at all he’s treating you like a booty call. He meant after y’all both had dinner (seperate) maybe you could do something, not “hook up.”

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Whatever he’s looking for, you’re not interested.  Be blunt. The next time he calls or texts  respond with “Don’t contact me again. Good bye.”   Stop trying to be nice.  People hear what they want to. By staying for drinks for an hour to be polite and by saying maybe some other time to his invitation he felt encouraged not politely brushed off.

Talk to your friend, make sure that she knows not to be giving out your information or leaving you with strange men.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

He must’ve felt that you were a lost cause as in not going to date him and he did a last ditch effort. Might as well see if he can at least get sex (nothing to lose after all lol). How did you respond to him?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Ignore the text.He will get the hint

Post # 13
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Helper bee

OP, have you met men? Haha. A lot of them are gross and try to use women for sex because they (the men) have low self-esteem. Just remember, if a guy treats you badly or tries to use you, it’s not a reflection on you. You aren’t doing anything wrong. It’s them. If I were you, I’d ignore him. When it comes to guys like that, don’t worry about being polite. Just shut it down.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Annonnie89:  You might be giving mixed signals. Why say “maybe another time” if you’re not interested? Tell your friend you’re not interested in the guy (and not to give your number out any more!), then just ignore his texts. Just don’t respond. If he’s dense, it might take 3-5 unanswered messages, but after that, he’ll get it. NBD.

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