(Closed) Why would a guy that I haven't hooked up with try to treat me like a booty call?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Annonnie89:  Because he has gotten away with it with other women. I never dated in my area but apparently the women around here allow men to get away with all sorts of bad behavior and have sex with them anyway

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Annonnie89:  I think the time period is dependent on the relationship. Some long term relationships that break off have been dead for years. There, the recovery time might be very short

Post # 35
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Busy bee

I’m really kind of gobsmacked that your friend would hand out your number without your permission. I mean, she knew you had met him on 2 different occasions – once against your will so to speak – and that you presumably would’ve given him your number if you wanted him to have it. He must’ve said something to her about not having your number. It’s just pretty breathtaking that she was presumtuous enough to know *what’s good for you* more than you yourself do. Forcing meet-ups with him, giving him your number without your permission. Who is this girl??

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper

I still don’t know why you think this is about a booty call. Just because you said your aren’t interested in dating right now, doesn’t mean he can’t try to hang out with you as friends. Hence the very casual call to get together. You may not care for him, but I don’t see anything that he’s done not to deserve even the courtesy of a response.  

Post # 39
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Sugar Beekeeper

Annonnie89:  Did you ask him what he had in mind?   Could be you’re right, after all, you know and have a sense of him, but it could be that you are making assumptions.  Maybe he thinks meeting you during the day for a pre-planned thing is more date-like and he’s trying for the more spontaneous, casual approach. As I said, maybe he just wants to stop by, pick you up and  go out for drinks, dessert or coffee. 

For safety reasons,  I would never let him hang out alone in your house. If that’s what he wanted to do he’s either laid back, clueless,  or you’re right about his intentions.  But you don’t want to see him again, so it’s a moot point. 

I agree about the friend. She really crossed the line. 

Post # 40
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Newbee

Hmm, I kinda agree that he may not have intended to treat you like a booty call, but just testing the waters to see if you wanted to hang out with him (because you’ve expressed that you are not interested in dating or sex).  The fact that you are writing a post and asking for an opinion maybe indicates that you have a slight interest in the attention that you have received from him.  Otherwise, you would just brush it off and continue to either be direct with him or to ignore him.  I could be wrong though, but it’s just a thought maybe worth exploring.  Good luck 🙂

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