Memberitalianbride0508 : do they? I have never asked such intrusive questions of a friend, let alone a colleague. I don’t know anyone who would ask a colleague those things.
MemberYes, they do. I’m currently pregnant and I can’t even begin to count the number of intrusive questions I’ve been asked by people I barely know.
I was just at a party earlier tonight and a friend of a friend (someone I just met TODAY) asked if I planned to deliver vaginally. I don’t even know this woman’s name! This happens all…the…time.
Memberllevinso : well that’s pretty appalling, what is wrong with people?!. The fact remains though that this woman wasn’t asked any details about how long she’d been TTC; she was just asked how far along she was/when she was due, and if she had a nursery. She could have just answered ‘x weeks/y date’ and ‘no, not yet’. No need at all for the extra details.
MemberYour co worker could be embarrassed or she could think that it’s enough for family and friends to know about her struggles and that it’s none of her co workers business
MemberIt’s a dumb taboo. Just like people told me I wouldn’t miscarry because I’m so “young fit and healthy”. Same thing… women have a dumb stigma that their ability to conceive reflects on their worth as a woman.
Whenever someone asks if I am trying to have kids I flat out say “yup, I just had a miscarriage”. It makes some people feel awkward but i think there needs to be more knowledge and communication about miscarriage and fertility problems in gerberal so the taboo goes away!